Should DH look after DC during time off?

[PonfusedCarent]

I have a feeling I am being unreasonable but here goes...

DH works in education and has all school holidays off, his school recently made the decision for 2 weeks off in October for half term.

We have a DC in childcare and usually they'd be at home together. He's now said we have to pay for the second week off so he can have a break on his own. Not to do anything in particular, he'll just be at home lounging about on the sofa all day.

We're saving for a house and I see this as money that will be wasted in these circumstances.

[Stephenfrylust]

If you Can afford it and he pulls his weight otherwise then why not? I've booked annual leave when the kids are in childcare.

Both me and DH have demanding jobs and no support from grandparents for even the odd hour off to go to the dentist etc. I don't feel guilty at all at taking time back.

[user1493494961]

Agree to one day.

[Notyoungbutscrappyandhungry]

@Rocinante39

You dont love your children if you try and avoid spending time with them.

Unless parents are facing a nervous breakdown, I really dont think they are entitled to have holidays apart from their children if the children want to be with them. That doesn't mean the children eat sweets all day. It means they spend fun time with the parent who loves them.

I think that applies to both men and women.

This is true in the most extreme situations where parents are basically abandoning their children at every opportunity. But I know many, many great parents who sometimes need a break. I’ve been away for a couple of nights without my kids most years, including when I was a SAHM. I am a better parent because of that. Having a chance to miss them makes me excited to see them again. Most parents I would imagine have times when they really really don’t want to look after their kids. Usually it’s when our own internal resources are totally depleted. Don’t shame a normal parenting emotion. People can love their kids deeply and be flipping spent. I imagine far more parents feel like this at the moment than usual.