Wedding in March 2021

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AIBU to carry on booking/arranging regardless?

I seem to have a positive outlook, DP doesn’t, he wants us to postpone. The logistics of that are making me anxious already and we haven’t even began yet.

I think that ‘rona will be well gone by then, or at least allowing Weddings. For context it’s small 40 guests in the day, 80 at night.

How can we/anyone plan their lives with this uncertainty?

YABU. Coronavirus isn’t going to be “well gone” by then, and we’ll be living with the current restrictions of 15 at weddings, compulsory masks everywhere, pubs/restaurants closing at 10pm etc. for at least six months, so it’s extremely unlikely you’d be able to have a wedding anywhere near what you’re thinking of now.

If you want a wedding in March 2021, be prepared to have 15 guests max and for the party to have to end by 10pm. If you’re not okay with that, postpone.

There is virtually no chance this will be over by spring.

If you want to get married, to do that with just yourselves or with a very small group of family. You can have the big celebration later. You won’t be the only couple.

If you want the big wedding, I would not book anything and plan on it being quite some time from now.

Sorry op if that's the numbers you want I would be prepared to move it.

We are getting married in August next year and I'm not even confident about that.

It's such a horrible time to be planning a wedding with all the uncertainty.

I really don’t know, I wish I could be more helpful. However, NI and a number of other countries like Italy are allowing much larger weddings than England is, so I guess whether this leads to greater spread or not could be a decider. Currently NI allow Covid-secure venues to determine the maximum guest numbers based on their size and other factors, with no Govt. mandated maximum guest numbers, they have published a document online with further details which is quite interesting www.executiveoffice-ni.gov.uk/sites/default/files/publications/execoffice/guidance-marriages-civil-partnerships-other-celebratory-events.pdf

My brothers wedding was April 2020, then it was October 2020, then it was April 2021... we were talking the other day and we don’t think it will be possible in April.

I’m getting a refund on my October flights and not just moving them to April. It sucks but there’s nothing that can be done.

Thanks everyone.

I think you all give sound reasoning, we’re going to have to bloody move it grrr.

To clarify: 40 day and another 40 for the night totalling 80.

I don’t mean it’ll disappear but something would have happened eg. Vaccine and/or people listening to social distance/lockdown enough to keep numbers low.

Ours is booked for the end of Feb (everything booked in Jan this year so pre corona) and we’ve pretty much accepted our 100 person party with a great band won’t be going ahead.

So frustrating though as the venue won’t tell us what will happen until 3 months in advance so end of November. We will be looking to postpone as we’re not in a hurry and it would be nice to finish all the work on the house in the meantime.

What we’ve done is send a note to all our guests explaining that we can’t have a decision until December from the venue and at that point they will either receive a full invite with all details (if a miracle has occurred) or a new “send the date” for probably another 12/18 months down the line. So effectively “please keep saving the date but we are aware of the situation and will be revising plans accordingly!”.