I’m angry all the time

[Suziee37]

I’m angry at everything all the time recently. I feel intense anger at things. I scream and shout btw not physically show it at all. I don’t like being like this. Every “silly” thing I feel anyone says just fills me with rage. I can control myself at work and in social situations but with family I have no control I just shout. I don’t want to be like this I hate it. I think naturally I am a very calm and quiet natured person, which makes it even more scary at how I am recently

How long have you been feeling this way? Have you recently gone through anything traumatic or stressful? And how old are you?

How old are you? Are you taking the pill? I could have written your OP in my 20s. Mine stopped when I went onto desogestrel. I mine it stopped literally overnight.

You do have control if you can control yourself at work though. Don't let yourself or your family live like this.

@VeraPink thank you for your response. I’m in my late 30’s. My youngest is 1.5 years old. I haven’t been through anything traumatic recently. I do feel overwhelmed with everything like there’s no time in the day to do anything.

You need to access counselling to deal with the underlying reasons (but also keep a diary in case of hormonal triggers or another physical cause).

Thank you @pepsicolagirl. No I’m not on the pill. I actually was calmer when I did take it recently but stopped as it made me feel sick all day

Well if you can control it at work then you can control it around your family at home so I think you need to make more of an effort, it's not your family's fault you are feeling this way. I'd go to a gp if this is unlike you. It doesn't sound a nice way to live at all and it could be something easily helped.

Me too but my rage is definitely linked to peri menopause. I'm 47 but I would say my anger started to gradually spill out from about 40. I'm much better when not stressed or tired.

Some days I fantasize about buying a mega phone and fitting it to the roof of my car (like our local scrap merchant has) and just shout out stuff like "fuck off you cunt buckets". There you go....

I'm watching this carefully as this is exactly how I feel. I really want to set fire to the world a lot of the time.
I can manage it but it's horrible feeling so vengeful.
I wondered if it might just be the peri menopoause, I'm 41.

Have you any other symptoms of thyroid-related issues? Weight loss, need to be active, difficulty sleeping (with a 1.5 year old??!!😂). Might be a possibility.

me too but im convinced its the 'Rona Rage' and also team that with the in laws living with me!

This is how I ended up being diagnosed with depression - I thought it was nonsense because I wasn't sad, just angry. But some SSRIs and a few months later and I stopped wanting to punch everything ha! Something to consider :)

I get/got terrible rage. It really is awful, mine was 100% hormone related and has abated significantly now my periods are dwindling away, it can still be triggered by tiredness though. It's genuinely soul destroying as uncontrollable even when you know what it is, I've definitely been emotionally abusive to family. If I had my time again I'd be pursuing a contraceptive to stop periods and see if that helps? Good luck 💗

Might be worth exploring through counselling if you can get it. I found that I had a lot of rage when I had a young DC - not around her thankfully but my fuse suddenly became very short in other areas of my life. I’ve always been a very repressed person - I was made to feel as a child that I wasn’t allowed to have strong emotions because my job was to protect my mother and that getting angry or upset was forbidden because it would make her life difficult. And when I became a mother myself, all those feelings bubbled up. I still have some very angry, even violent thoughts - mostly about politics and the state of the world - but I’m able to be a calm person now I have that self-knowledge and have learned some coping strategies.

[quote Suziee37]@VeraPink thank you for your response. I’m in my late 30’s. My youngest is 1.5 years old. I haven’t been through anything traumatic recently. I do feel overwhelmed with everything like there’s no time in the day to do anything.[/quote]
I had 2 babies in quick succession and I dont think my hormones have been balanced since because I feel the same. I've had some very sad stuff happen recently too which also makes me angry.

OP consider cutting down on caffeine and sugar. It can have quite an effect on moods, cut out fizzy drinks too. The three of those all cause chemical havoc in our digestive system will links to hormones and wellbeing.

Also drink plenty of water which some here will no doubt laugh at but it really does help. Aim for 2.5-3 litres each day more if possible.

Breathe, take a moment to focus on your breathing.