To send a hamper to friend whose lost their parent?

[BabyCJuly]

Hi there,

Our friend has lost his mum after a short illness. She was only 59.

Is it insensitive to send a hamper of bits? I would make something to drop off but have a newborn.

Thoughts on a hamper to send? Not keen on sending flowers.

Thanks so much.

@BabyCJuly

Thank you all. I’ve just baked a lasagne and made some cookies. I also have bought some salad and garlic bread to go with it! Thanks everyone for all your help! Nice to think it out with you all xxx have a good evening xxx

That's perfect. One less meal to have to think about shopping for, or cooking when they really won't have the emotional energy to do any of that.

In my husband's last months when my daughters and I were nursing him, my colleagues clubbed together for the most huge John Lewis hamper that arrived at our door as a big surprise for us as a family. That was wonderful. Our daughters were SO excited by the bottomless treasure chest of goodies, my husband was just bowled over by the kindness, and his appetite helped by the real treats inside...it was just so special.

But after he died? No, it wouldn't have worked - certainly not in the immediate aftermath. Cards were very much appreciated, but treats had lost their meaning and their gloss. It's not the time for luxuries. It's time for caring warm empathetic gestures. Like leaving a home cooked meal at the door.