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To encourage you to send letters like this to your schools?

718 replies

NameChange2271 · 22/09/2020 13:18

Name changed for this as apparently it’s an unpopular opinion; but I think it’s important to protect our children.

Please can I encourage you to send a letter like this into all your children’s schools.

Dear Headteacher

I am writing to inform you that (Child Name) is exempt from wearing a face covering of any kind, as per government legislation.

There are many exemptions from wearing a face mask, which incorporate hidden disabilities, including but not limited to:

(I) because of any physical or mental impairment or illness or disability (Section 6 of the equality act 2010)

(II) without severe distress

Section 6 of the equality act states that schools must not discriminate against a student because of their disability.

I am concerned that my child will be singled out for not wearing a mask and would like to remind you that this is also discriminatory.

(Childs Name) is under no obligation to provide proof of this exemption and is protected from doing so by the Data Protection Act 2018

I have also sent a copy of this letter to our solicitors.

Kind Regards
(Your Name)

OP posts:
Mytabbymademedoit · 23/09/2020 17:57

Or you could, OP, home school him?
No?
Choose another school that doesn't encourage masks then.
And start counting down till they're sent home.
Wonder what your posts will be about thenHmm

IndiNile · 23/09/2020 18:15

OP at a time when school staff are under immense pressure, you have been unreasonable. Don’t be surprised if your son finds himself left out with his peers who are wearing masks and realise that he doesn’t have to because he simply doesn’t want to. You are selfish and every pupil who complied and parent who encourages their child to act morally will think the same.

Mytabbymademedoit · 23/09/2020 18:26

OP, if your child picked up the virus then orhers ariund him got infected,you'd be ok with another parent going all legal on you? Cos I sure as hell would.

Also be prepared for the school to tell you to take him elsewhere if you don't want to follow their rules. And mean it. And make it happen.

childrensclothes · 23/09/2020 18:28

Why do people think saying they’ve “copied it to their solicitor” means anything at all? Hmm

Most people don’t have a solicitor on retainer, they just have someone they’ve used for conveyancing, tax, wills, that sort of thing.

Starlightstarbright1 · 23/09/2020 18:36

My Ds is exempt but wears one.. if it was an issue I would address it with the school like i do any other issue. .

Sometimes issues can be dealt with without it ending up on s.media

StaffAssociationRepresentative · 23/09/2020 18:57

@NameChange2271. Great to see a parent helping to make a school Covid-secure.

All this permissive parenting will not help your child when they are an adult and someone says no . Could be university admission tutor, recruiter, mortgage application .... what are they going to do? Get mummy to write a letter threatening a solicitor?

Grow up and get a grip

dobbyssoc · 23/09/2020 20:23

Wow.... OP are you happy if schools close to homeschool your child or do you feel that is damaging to mental health as well?

CrocodilesCry · 23/09/2020 20:36

I'm howling at this. OP you're massive idiot and if you really did send that into school, be prepared for the teachers to be laughing at you and judging you to be an unfit parent in equal measure until the day your DS leaves.

Mytabbymademedoit · 23/09/2020 23:06

Don't tha they're coming backSmile

Chaosalloveragain · 23/09/2020 23:22

I'd just be grateful that the school are trying to protect everyone.

I can't see the big deal. My ds has to wear a mask in the corridors and dinner hall.

If my child genuinely had a very good reason not to wear one I'd just ring the school and have a chat about it.

Pobblebonk · 23/09/2020 23:31

OP, if your child picked up the virus then orhers ariund him got infected,you'd be ok with another parent going all legal on you? Cos I sure as hell would.

To be fair, other parents simply would have no hope whatsoever of success in "going legal" since (a) exemptions are permitted and (b) if their child got infected, they wouldn't have a hope in hell of proving that OP's son was the source of infection.

greyblueeyes · 23/09/2020 23:59

@NameChange2271

To those saying he has to wear them in shops etc. No he doesn’t. The law states that there are exemptions. No one is under any legal obligation to prove their exception

It sure sounds to me like you think he's exempted because he's "special" or simply doesn't like wearing masks. If he doesn't have a genuine medical need that makes mask wearing difficult, you are teaching your son a very poor life lesson. Adulthood is gonna kick his ass because he's going think he's "special" and the rules don't apply to him.

mumwon · 24/09/2020 00:08

out of interest
do you believe that there was no moon landing
there was another person on the knoll in Dallas
the twin towers were brought down by an explosion
corona virus is being called by those 4G
corona virus is a big fake orchestrated by - whoever
antivax
translation you are selfish & you are not helping your son or anybody else

IfOnlyOurEyesSawSouls · 24/09/2020 00:23

No you cant encourage me !

What a stupid thread 🙄

My DC wear them as much as possible in school .

Sallydimebar · 24/09/2020 00:48

I’ve seen some stupid shit throughout this pandemic but this really is up there . What a selfish individual you are !! Why not do the school a favour and switch to home schooling . You and many others are why restrictions will keep getting tighter .

Oncemorewithfeelin · 24/09/2020 03:29

Thanks for the good laugh. Im sure when your son handed the letter in the staff room had a good laugh too.
The fact that he was given a pass doesn’t mean they took you seriously. A quick call to them saying my son is really struggling with the masks and how it is affecting him would have done the trick.

All you have done is make yourself look an absolute fool.

All the mask refusers make it more difficult for people with genuine reasons for not wearing them.

What would you do if all teachers decided they had exemption from wearing masks? What about Drs/nurses/dentists?

As I’ve often seen on mumsnet you always have the option of removing Precious child from school and homeschooling if you don’t like their rules.

QueenofLouisiana · 24/09/2020 06:38

Great idea, perhaps tell school your DC can’t be expected to wash their hands so often as it irritates their skin while you’re at it.

Honestly? Schools have enough to deal with at the moment. Individual teachers are coping with 30 faces in each lesson, all breathing at them, rarely with enough ventilation. Very few children genuinely cannot wear a mask, many more have parents who want them to be special. (Disclaimer: I teach, DS is exempt due to asthma, I’m exempt when with him as he uses lip-reading to support auditory processing issue- we still wear them.)

GuyFawkesDay · 24/09/2020 06:43

A school near here has closed now, due to Covid. Home schooling for 2 weeks.

Cases in every year group.

Let that just sink in. Despite bubbles, management of classes and all the efforts schools have gone to, because kids won't socially distance, because they don't wash their hands or sanitise regularly (some are refusing gel because their hands are sore: buy some hand cream, kids!) the school has multiple cases in every year group and amongst staff too.

This will be what happens everywhere unless EVERYONE who can, your precious little soldier included, follows the rules.

Mytabbymademedoit · 24/09/2020 06:45

@Pobblebonk my point was more about how OP would like it, not the actual legalese of it. Though if OPs son tested positive and abother child who wss living with shielding people and wwas driven to school etc etc somone might feel aggreieved enough for a punt at suing

AwaAnBileYerHeid · 24/09/2020 07:24

Aren't you embarrassed to be acting this way, OP? And ashamed to be teaching your son that this is an acceptable and normal way to act?

Lex345 · 24/09/2020 07:47

Do you think you are the only parent who despises the current situation, the only parent who hates that children have missed out on 6 months of social interaction, education and development and that masks are becoming the new normal?

You don't need to be a dick about it. I am grateful the school are at least trying to limit the spread (ours are not allowed masks in lessons). We have already had 2 of our 3 children sent home due to positive cases in their close bubble, the primary school has sent all year groups home to isolate bar one and the secondary school has confirmed cases in every single year group. Mask wearing is reducing the spread, can you imagine what the spread would be like with no masks at all?

KatherineOfGaunt · 24/09/2020 07:55

The OP is pathetic for posting this, regardless of whether it was just for reactions or genuinely true.

But I am heartened, as a teacher, to see so many people speak so strongly for mask-wearing in schools and even more heartened to see many thanking school staff. When so much of MN has been Us for Them and negativity against teachers, it's really wonderful to hear from people on the other side!

NameChange2271 · 28/09/2020 08:18

The school have made a mask part of the uniform!

Surely they can’t do that. The DfE say that masks can not be part of the uniform.

OP posts:
gamerchick · 28/09/2020 08:23

I thought you bullied them into an exemption card? What you stressing about?

Tbh if your letter had been passed about to other entitled parents at your kids school like I suspect it has, what choice did the school have? Just behave yourselves ffs.

Igotthemheavyboobs · 28/09/2020 08:23

@choosername1234

And other ways to ruin your relationship with the school......
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