Post natal rage? Or just normal first time mum

[JKDcot]

I hope this doesn’t come across as stupid question. But how do people not get angry when silly things / accidents happen to their babies?

My son is 16 weeks and in the last few weeks my husband has - dropped him out of his pram (nothing serious he just rolled out when being pushed down a slope but was fine as wrapped in blankets) and tonight nearly spilled boiling hot water on him (we were heating up his night time bottle and both tired and the Pyrex dish was too full and spilled over).

Neither time our baby has been hurt. Both were complete accidents. But I get so angry with my husband, and my first reaction is to shout.... does anyone else do this? How do you control it? I know it doesn’t help the situation

Of course, shout at him? He needs to be more careful.

I would shout too. You are completely normal. Your OH needs to be more careful. You are tired as well have you dropped or risked scalding the baby??

How are you sleeping? I found that sleep has such a big impact on my emotions that it's so hard not to go shouty when I'm sleep deprived. I was very shouty with my toddler just doing normal toddler things. I think some people have better safety instincts than others and also the parent who spends more time with the baby is normally more tuned in to hazards. Unfortunately both of you will probably have accidents involving your child when they are older eg tripping up with them, shutting their fingers in a drawer, leaving something dangerous nearby that they can get to, that will lead to them being hurt. Its almost inevitable. And when it happens to you, you realise how awful you feel and the other parent shouting and blaming doesn't help.
As to what you can do, remind yourself he is new at this as well, busy yourself doing something else while you count to 10, try and get some sleep. I think it's only justified to go mad if he makes the same mistakes again eg consistently forgets to strap the baby in

Nope I haven’t done either ... and I am of course super careful. But these were genuine mistakes and he was very upset they happened. It didn’t help by me screaming at him... I am interested to hear others would have reacted the same though. Thought I was being melodramatic

dropped him out of his pram (nothing serious he just rolled out when being pushed down a slope but was fine as wrapped in blankets)

Er that is pretty serious op. Of course you'd be mad. How does that even happen?