For background, my DS, 13 lives with me and DD lives with her dad. We are divorced, mainly due to domestic abuse. Just over a year ago my DD wanted to live with her dad, and pretty much made my life a misery in the process. Her dad promised he could provide a safe secure and loving environment, that he had been with his the partner for 4 years and she happy and content when there, so stupidly I agreed. In that time, DD has changed schools 4 times, and his relationship ended.
He now has a new partner, but my DD has disclosed this weekend that when her dad and his girlfriend facetime, the girlfriend has exposed herself, top half and bottom half. DD has witnessed this. My DS then said when he has been there, dad and GF disappear for showers together, leaving him to look after his sister, and the GF's 2 younger kids. He's made to share a bed with a 3 year old who still wears a nappy and soils himself in the night, and they had a conversation about sex, asking my son if when he is 20, would he have sex with a 15 year old.
My ex is not someone to confront, and my daughter has begged me not to say anything because she is scared of the consequences. I did report this to the NSPCC, but I'm so scared. I had to let my daughter go back to her dads, but I worry he will manipulate her again.
Have I done enough? I'm panicking, my ex is unpredictable.