To ask you how often you visit your DPs?

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Out of interest
If they live two - ish hours away.
Parent living alone, retired, in good health.
How often do you visit? Do you stay the night or come and go in one day?

Anybody? I should add that I know people in certain areas are in lockdown but apart from that / in previous "normal" times

When I used to live 4 hours away we would go once every 6-8 weeks for a long weekend and then for whole xmas period

My parents used to live a few hours away and tbh, they came to see us and would spend a few days...often rotating between siblings. That would be about 5/6 times a year.

Age and declining health prompted a decision to move closer to us...and visits are now about twice a week.

Last time was 1995!

No bio father and definitely nothing "D" about my mother.

Never lived that closed. We see them every couple of years or so

Mine are an hour away. Pre Covid we saw each other twice a month. Since Covid we've visited their garden twice. I really miss seeing them in person.

I live about 1.5 hours away from my dad and see him every 5/6 weeks - I usually get there about 11 ish and leave about 4 ish

My mum lives about a 4-5 hour drive away, we both used to live in different places and when her husband was alive it was more like 2.5 - 3 hours. I usually see her once a year.

Once a month.
We use to live 5mins away and would be over pretty much every other day.
But I have always had a good relationship with them.

I live v. close to my parents and see them 2-3 times a week - we live 2 hours from DH’s parents and see them approx twice a month

I used to see my mam every day when I worked near her, then when I changed jobs I still saw her every weekend. I was really close to her and miss her so much now she had Alzheimer’s.
I hope my girls still come visit me all the time too. I would hate to not see them regularly like some posters on here.

Every day. But then they do live next door 😊

One parent still alive, lives approx four hours drive away. Might visit for two to four nights two or three times per year. Parent is 70s, retired, married, not 'ill' but has health issues. They last visited me about three years ago. Speak regularly on phone.

Other parent no longer alive but hadnt seem them for a few years prior (lived four hours drive in a different direction) and birthday phone calls. No rift, just drifted.

Once a fortnight maybe in the young days of the baby. I think more like once a month now. They are an hour and a half away. However if I got on with them better we could easily go once a week.

Less than an hour and we meet up every 4-6 weeks usually, more over holidays, pretty even 50/50 who travels.

Other side is 2.5 hours and 4 times a year, no overnights as nowhere to stay, they don't come to us.

Depends- probably every 1-2 months and almost always stay overnight. Parents visit us very really probably once or twice ever.

Parents live 3 1/2 hours away. About 3-4 times a year. They used to drive to us as retired but long drives are too stressful now so we drive to them. Chat on phone every week to ten days - they are in good health, pre COVID were out all the time but obviously not so much now.
Have good relationships but dont live I each others pockets

DH family live about two hours away but they are still married and SIL lives round the corner from them so they're not 'alone'. See them about for times a year, used to stay but now we are too many to stay so normally come and go in a day.

My DM lives about 45 mins away, by herself, widowed, my siblings are all hours and hours away. See her at least once a week.

My parents live a 5 minute walk away, I see them most days.

I see my dad every day, he lives in the next street.

See IL’s four days a week as they live in the same village and care for DD while I work. Both in their 70s, fit and well.

DM lives alone 3.5 hours away, so we either travel to stay for a weekend or she travels to stay for a weekend maybe every 2-3 months? She adores DD and would happily do it more often but still works full time. She’s 60.

DF lives next door (temporarily)! He’s 67 and exceptionally fit and active - cycles 100 miles three times a week. However, we don’t see him much for any quality time because he’s usually off cycling, skiing or enjoying himself with his lady friend. He’s very independent in nature!

Thanks for the info everyone

Mine are an hour and fifteen away, every 4-6 weeks, they tend to visit us in the intermittent.

MIL is 20 minutes away and would like to see her once every ten years but unfortunately she forces herself on us weekly.