Rule of 6

[Spanglebangle]

AIBU to think that publicly disregarding the rule of 6 is wrong.
I cancelled my daughter's birthday party after the rule of 6 came in. Instead as a treat I booked a family day out.
Today we went as a group of 5 to said day out. At lunch we sat at the picnic area surrounded by groups of 7 8 and 9 a group of 11 on the next table and a group of 15 nearby.

AIBU to think people should not be doing this? They were having fun, enjoying themselves etc but to break the law so obviously in a public place is just ridiculous.

Those voting YABU. Why? Do you think people should be able to do whatever they want or do you not agree with the rule?

YANBU. They’re selfish fuckers.

I know it’s so frustrating that the majority will stick to the rules and others will carry on regardless.

You have no idea whether or not they are one family unit. Stop judging.

You can exceed 6 if you all live in the same household - 8 people live in DD's flat at uni for example.

@ThroughThickAndThin01

You have no idea whether or not they are one family unit. Stop judging.

You don’t come across many families with 13 children.

Or 15 adults living together.

My son is in a student uni house of 8. I’d hate the OP to be near his group when they’re out, sneering and pointing.

YANBU. It's true that a family group could be 15 people, but (mercifully) the number of Mick Philpotts out there is rather small.

Remember- children under 12 don't count in Scotland.

Also, teens who are in classrooms together all week - I'm not going get worked up about seeing them socialise.

I’m a childminder and we are exempt, looking forward to all the evil glances when we are out and about!

Look after yourself, keep your distance and stop glaring at other people and what they do.

To be fair, it's hard not to judge when we're being told that there'll be another lockdown unless we all follow the rules. Nobody wants that and, if you're someone who's being pretty strict, it's galling to know that it might be imposed upon you by people who aren't.

We went to our local park this morning As a family of 4, a family from pre school were randomly there too, and a neighbours family, we stood around chatting then realised we were about 15 people. Yet my 4 year old goes off and plays with loads of different kids and is in a bubble of 30.

My friend has 6 kids and 2 adults, nowhere will let them book for their DS birthday, bowling got cancelled as did the restaurant even though they are a family of 8

"You don’t come across many families with 13 children.

Or 15 adults living together."

I shared a kitchen and bathroom with 27 others at uni. I know many many others that did

YABU.
I don't agree with the rule

Just be content that you're doing the right thing. You can't control what other people do. You'll drive yourself bonkers if you get upset at other people whose circumstances you don't know, seemingly breaking the rules.

My sister in law has a family of 9. We are a family of 7.
My youngest sister is in halls and there are 10 in her bubble. You have no idea why they are in larger groups.

YANBU OP, but there are plenty who will say you are, or who will grasp at straws to tell you that the large groups are all clearly one household, however bloody unlikely we all know that to be in reality.

No one is listening where I live. It seemed to be that people are only counting the adults. So often 6 adults and god knows how many kids in groups!

I try not to judge but I'm taking it seriously but why do I bother if others aren't?!

I live near two universities so seeing large groups of student is very common. DS1 is in a house of 9 with a shared garden and shared laundry room with another house of 9.

It's lower risk to have a bigger group sensibly spaced outside, than 6 seperate friends legally sitting together inside a pub.

The rule is arbitary and doesn't take into account the risk level of the surroundings or the fact that a group may well already be exposed to eachother in higher risk workplaces or education.

I am choosing to socialise with two other households - friends of mine; my husband and my child. When we are together there are 7 of us including a 5 and 7 month old baby respectively. So we are breaking the rules, BUT I do this and don't mix in a group of 5 other individuals which might mix 6 different households.

I've stuck to the rules rigidly so far - to the extent my mental health has been shot and I've had to start counselling again for OCD because of worries about contamination. I've had to take a far more sensible view about how o apply the rules and I cannot fathom how 6 people from 6 households is LESS risky than 7 people from 2 households, one of whom is virtually permanently attached to one parent

@nicebreeze

I am choosing to socialise with two other households - friends of mine; my husband and my child. When we are together there are 7 of us including a 5 and 7 month old baby respectively. So we are breaking the rules, BUT I do this and don't mix in a group of 5 other individuals which might mix 6 different households.

I've stuck to the rules rigidly so far - to the extent my mental health has been shot and I've had to start counselling again for OCD because of worries about contamination. I've had to take a far more sensible view about how o apply the rules and I cannot fathom how 6 people from 6 households is LESS risky than 7 people from 2 households, one of whom is virtually permanently attached to one parent

I should make clear it's two households separately - so we only ever socialise with a single other household

The group on the table next to us were definitely not one household because they met up in the picnic area and I could hear them catching up on each others news. Not eaves dropping deliberately but I could hear them talking.

The huge group could conceivable have been one household but there were two sets of grandparent aged people. Many adults and several children.

I am in England so children do count although even if they didn't these groups would have been breaking the rules.

Of the smaller groups they appeared to be groups of friends with children who had met up for a day out and groups of grandparents, adult children and grandchildren.

Maybe I am being nosy and judgy but surely we have to be to an extent. If we are not aware of what is around us how else can we avoid it.

@Spanglebangle maybe they were all meeting up because they know the ridiculous rule of one household is probably coming soon.
My grandparents died in lockdown I was robbed of seeing them before they died. Instead they died without seeing any family for the last 2 and 3 months of their lives which to me is very sad. Maybe people were meeting for those reasons?
Like I say, I wish I had time in my life to take out and judge other people.
I've been away for the weekend with my partner. Just us, but we've been in many bars and restaurants where I'm sure the risk was higher than people having picnics.