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Are there any stalking helplines open today?

7 replies

Lampshadesfor · 19/09/2020 13:28

I'm feeling a bit desperate and work during the week so I seem to have missed the opening times.

The police were supportive on Friday and going to take it forward as a criminal matter but after talking to the person harassing me, they have completely changed because he apparently is planning to make statements of harassment against me.

My solicitor thinks we might have enough for a civil injunction but she's really not sure and we could then be £20 000 out of pocket which would be a disaster for us. We're not really in a position to get the injunction in the first place.

My children are suffering and I can't take them out of the house because it is too upsetting for them to be watched and heckled at. My solicitor said to get as much footage as possible but filming him was like a red rag to a bull and I honestly don't know if my mental health would survive doing it again. I don't feel like I can leave the house, I'm now having panic attacks (I thought an anglepoise lamp was the person in question last night and had a panic attack - so stupid). The person lives beside us and I can't get out of the house without passing them. He can appear outside our windows at any moment and I don't even have a wall. If this sounds familiar - yes, I posted before, then my husband posted his own thread and we did absolutely everything people were kind enough to advise us to do.

I just don't know how to go on like this. I'm not eating or sleeping. Is there a helpline?

OP posts:
LittleMissnotLittleMrs · 19/09/2020 13:36

Op, I don’t have suggestions other than Options I’m sure you’ve considered like phone the police back and get a go-pro and CCTV but I didn’t want to read and run. My heart goes out to you and your family 💐

Notimeforaname · 19/09/2020 13:43

This is awful op. So sorry. I haven't seen your other threads. But, how frightening. I also didn't want to read and run.
I also had someone harass and stalk me years back and the police were useless.
Obviously I don't know the situation and what this person is like and I never usually condone retaliation but in my case this person was scared into leaving us alone by family members /friends who took it upon themselves to intimidate and watch him back.... From cars etc. He eventually moved (he lived across the road from us)
I do hope it gets sorted out safely op. Flowers I'm so sorry there's not much I can do or say.

Notimeforaname · 19/09/2020 13:45

get a go-pro and CCTV
And absolutely do this if you haven't already.

Notimeforaname · 19/09/2020 13:48

[email protected]

This is an email you can contact out of hours... and they can try to arrange a call.

123newyear · 19/09/2020 13:53

Contact Victim Support OP - they are open 24/7 08 08 16 89 111

Lampshadesfor · 19/09/2020 14:54

Thank you everyone.

OP posts:
SummerHouse · 19/09/2020 14:57

www.suzylamplugh.org/pages/category/national-stalking-helpline

Link to the national stalking helpline.

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