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AIBU?

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Help me get some perspective!

4 replies

annie987 · 19/09/2020 12:58

I have a 14 year old daughter who has a close circle of friends.
I seem to get incredibly over invested in all the up and downs of girl friendships!
I very occasionally meet up socially with three mums of her ‘best’ friends who are lovely and whenever she has arguments (rarely) with these girls I panic as I feel the mums will judge me! We aren’t close enough to discuss these kind of things but if they don’t reply to my texts I worry it’s because of the actions of my daughter! Despite the fact my daughter is actually usually very pleasant and kind to everyone bar the odd fallout. She’s always been taught to be kind to everyone but to not let others take advantage of her.
Her friendships seem to naturally be changing and she is now closer to one of the friends that she went to school with during lockdown - they were the only two out of the group that had to still go. There haven’t been any fallouts but I’m worrying that she’s leaving the other girls out. God I’m so pathetic! I’m so preoccupied with wanting her to be kind.
I need to get a grip on myself but I’m finding it tricky!

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annie987 · 19/09/2020 15:00

Is there any way I can get this moved to the teenagers board?

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Pinkshrimp · 19/09/2020 20:06

I have no advice-sorry.
Press the ‘report’ tab on the top right of your post and it brings up a box so you can send a message to MN.

Wibblypiggly · 19/09/2020 23:28

Is your daughter normally the instigator of ‘fallouts’?

Wibblypiggly · 19/09/2020 23:31

Do you have close friends of your own, op? It’s a bit odd to be so invested in your daughter’s social life and to be anxious about it. You sound a bit lacking I’m in confidence as you worry what others think of you and your daughter. I am not the mum of a teenage girl but I am one of four sisters. I’d say just let her get in with it and trust you instilled the right messages in her. Ans maybe take up a new hobby or make some new friends and ‘live’ less through your daughter.

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