How do you get space?

[confusedasusual78]

Not sure if my situation is normal and I’m being unreasonable, but I have no space to myself, almost ever.
I have a dd, two years old and teach part time.
My dh leaves for work at 8, returns around 7, sometimes works Saturdays too.
Did is in with us in bed, I get up with her, do breakfast, changed etc, all lunches, all dinners, washing up etc, all bills, majority of shopping, errands etc. A few hours a week, I teach from home (Pupils come to me) whilst Dd naps.
Dh and I take it turns each night to take Dd to bed (bath, story, milk etc) we stay with her in bed as she wakes often and it’s easier than coming down then backwards and forwards through the evening.
During the alternate nights dh does bedtime/sleep, I tidy, finish chores etc and sort the dog. I sit down by 8.30-9ish, watch television for 1-2 hours, go up to bed and it all starts again in the morning.
Weekends are no different really, dh will go to shops for extra bits and do washing up or garden.
Dd barely napping in the day anymore so is extra difficult,
1.5-2 hours alone every other day, is this normal? Prepared to be shot down and told it is and it’s just motherhood.
We have no family here (live abroad) so this has been the same for the last two years.
Wondering when/if it changes/gets easier, I can barely even think.

Before Dd came along, I left home at 8 in the mornings, returned at 7 (taught full time) marked and prepared at home after work and some weekends and I didn’t feel even close to being this tired.

Yes it's common, especially without friends / family living close.

But it doesn't mean it's good. Personally I would skip the chores some evenings and take some time / agree with your DH that you both cover some time alone for each other.

I really think you need to do it for your mental sanity.

Our friends here all have small children too.
She should be hopefully going to nursery next September, part time..will this make a huge difference?🙏

I see posts from friends with their little ones going to the grandparents overnight and I can’t even imagine it..an uninterrupted night, lie in, even to sit on the sofa together watching a film..sounds heavenly!

Very normal (sorry) it wont last forever tho

Ha I think that’s actually not too bad! Wait til no naps

@Pumpkinnose Yes but surely (hopefully!) by then they do earlier to bed and on their own and you have each evening free?
At the moment it’s so jumbled, there’s no free part and now she often doesn’t want to have her afternoon nap