In-laws and my dd

[Youaremysunshine2010]

Aibu here or are they being abit pathetic ?
My dd has an allergy and we have been told to start trying her on little bits of food to try and get her to tolerate it, we've given her some and she's reacted to it, she gets wheezy and coughs cold like symptoms, this happens every time she has a certain food, now they never come when she has a cold but have looked after bil daughter over night whilst she has a cold, I have just told mil that she's had abit of a reaction but they are welcome to come over tomorrow.... she has replied and said we will see how she is!!! You can't bloody catch a reactions!? Aibu or are they being a bit pathetic?
If I told mil not to come for the week she'd accuse me of stopping her seeing dd.

Anyone? X

Let your husband respond to her
Or just say she's still sick, what a shame you can't come. Sounds like a good way to avoid her to me

How old are they and are they vulnerable to Covid? It's not pathetic to avoid catching something that has a high chance of making you ill.

We are being told to avoid contact with people who have Covid symptoms and a cough is one. They would be the ones to suffer, so they get to decide.

I don’t understand the issue. Most people don’t want to be disturbed by visitors if they are a little under the weather. MIL sounds like she is being considerate surely? Any excuse to bash a MIL though.

I am more surprised by this strategy of trying to increase tolerance to something she is allergic to. If it is a real allergy then you aren’t going to change that. My husband is allergic to feathers, it is best he stay away from feathers, I don’t deliberately waft feathers under his nose to try to increase his tolerance.

I've been told by the doctors to try her on dairy by using the milk ladder, as little by little she may grow out of it but thanks for the sarcastic reply.
As for mil bashing no I'm really not I'm trying to work out why she would have one grandchild with a Cold and run in the other direction because mine has a reaction to dairy which is the standard reaction she has with it

They are 60 ish, she would be the same whether Covid was around or not xx

And dd isn't unwell if that makes sense she's perfectly happy playing, she's just had a reaction xx