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To have lost it with woman at petrol station?

19 replies

Callmemadam · 08/10/2007 19:32

I am still shocked at my response tbh! I went to fill up with fuel after school today, and paid for a car wash ticket. As is my usual habit I then drove to carwash bit, only to find that someone had parked their MPV bang up against the doors to the cw, on the yellow hatched bit and swanned off to get a ticket. Well, I couldn't get past, so I waited. And waited. Four !!! customers exited the shop before finally Madam emerges, blows kisses at her mate, and wanders back to her car. Seeing me waiting she smiled and said 'oh, sorry' rather airily. To my utter, utter astonishment (because when I am not in court I am both shy and a wimp) I heard myself saying 'well so you should be, for being so bloody rude!' At this point she froze, and asked me to repeat it. So I said that I thought it was a really bad mannered thing to do, incredibly inconsiderate and plain rude. So she then said' well fine, you go first, then' and shot through the car wash at speed, and drove off! I felt guilty and found myself making excuses for her like she was maybe in a hurry etc, but I had crashing period pain and a 12 yr old dd at home sick on the sofa, and it still wouldn't occur to me to behave like she did. I am just so fed up with people being inconsiderate and selfish, but was I wrong to tell her? I didn't raise my voice at all btw as I had dd2 in the car.

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BeetrootMNRoyalty · 08/10/2007 19:34

of course she was unreasonable.

well done

NineUnlikelyTales · 08/10/2007 19:35

It doesn't sound like you lost it to me. Lost it would involve fouler swear words, going red in the face, spitting a bit and probably shaking a fist.

YANBU.

constancereader · 08/10/2007 19:36

she will never do this again

ThePhantomToiletFlusher · 08/10/2007 19:36

No ,she was the one who was unreasonable and paid the price for it!

She obviously sped off in embarassment..well done you.

noonar · 08/10/2007 19:36

yes. and how satisfying to have actually said what you thought. instead of lamenting ' oh i shouldve told her....'

MyTwopenceworth · 08/10/2007 19:37

You didn't yell, threaten or abuse her. You simply told her straight that she was rude and selfish.

Good for you.

Kathyis6incheshigh · 08/10/2007 19:39

This is wonderfully British, isn't it? You 'lose it' with complete justification, and as 9UT says, you didn't really lose it much, and then go away agonising about it
I think you were totally justified.

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 08/10/2007 19:41

Well said and in a mannerly fashion, so refreshing these days. Particularly on this board at times.

chipmonkeyPumpkinNorks · 08/10/2007 19:42

No, you didn't lose it, you were being assertive! Well done!

PoisonFrogPrincess · 08/10/2007 19:42

pat on the back for you, I too am sick and tired of rude people (particularly in their cars)

Bainmarie · 08/10/2007 19:44

YANBU!

LadyVictoriaOfCake · 08/10/2007 19:47

oh that bugs me like hell when people do that.

well done you!

Callmemadam · 08/10/2007 19:47

I know this is being silly (and possibly hormonal ) but I have actually just burst - well, slid - into tears at all your esponses! It does feel so strange to actually say what I so often think but never ever say when someone behaves like that! I must be turning into a Grumpy Old Woman (slopes off to organise subtle name-change..)

Thanx xxx

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MilkMonitor · 08/10/2007 19:49

I admire you for being so frank but not, as you put in your thread title, losing it. You were assertive and quite right. Don't feel bad. You did the right thing. She won't fanny about anymore.

fawkeoff · 08/10/2007 19:49

YANBU i think it's great you told her she was a thoughtless cow and still being refrained x

mammyjo · 08/10/2007 19:55

Good for you! Not unreasonable at all IMO. I have been known to do this on occassion (am normally relatively reserved). Venting your frustration can be surprisingly liberating!

GrumpyWomenRuleOK · 08/10/2007 19:56

Assertive? Me? Fantastic.....

morningpaper · 08/10/2007 19:57

YANBU, you were absolutely right

jajas · 08/10/2007 19:57

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