To be going through some sort of early mid life crisis

[Bubblepopelectric87]

Long term relationship. Two children together. Mortgage. He works. I did until 5 years ago. Supposed to be going back to work in 18 months around the kids and school. Not sure if I'm just a bored housewife.

But lately I've been having some really random thoughts about men and having fun. I keep thinking, is this it now. I'll never feel the thrill again. I'll never be able to talk to a man and build up to meeting up, sex, going out on dates and things. There's so much I love about my partner. But it feels massively like something is missing. I've never cheated before. It would be the most craziest thing if I even considered it. I wouldn't want to cheat and lie. I wouldn't want to destroy my family. But there's this really strong desire inside to feel less lonely. I sometimes think I wish someone would just come into my life and make me feel alive again..then I think how much i would hurt everyone. Including all my family. My partner's family.

I don't know whether my partner's my soul mate. I think he's boring these days. But coronavirus hasn't helped. We've not done anything this year.

The smallest bit of attention from a male makes me feel a buzz inside. Which is rare because I don't often see one. We have a man using a small digger near our home at the moment. He brought my toddlers ball back to the garden last week. But he now waves to me and shouts hello when he sees me. I can't help but wonder what he thinks of me. Am I attractive to him. I know how ridiculous that reads.

I just have this urge to meet someone new and enjoy getting to know them and experiencing everything again. but inside I know that's an absolute ridiculous thing to want.

Anyone been through this. I'm early 30s.

I’d say yes it’s probably bored housewife feeling, corona virus has made everyone feel isolated and dull. If you talk to your partner he probably feels similar. Why don’t you plan an evening for the two of you, cook a nice dinner, get dressed up and have a glass of wine after the kids are in bed. Then talk to each other about how you’re really feeling (not the other men bit obviously), would going back to work sooner be an option? It’s been a weird old 6 months, give it a chance to get better. for you, it’s hard being the one at home, and I find it very lonely sometimes.

I was where you are OP. I ended my marriage. I had one passionate soul destroying relationship (kept away from my DC) which broke me. I then met my current DP, he is amazing and after a year he met my DC. I am happier than I’ve ever been in mylife.

I would be very cautious. This stage of your life it is easy to feel stuck in a rut and crave excitement, particularly with coronavirus making life feel boring and flat.

I was working with 2 small children and channelled some of that feeling to go on conferences and interesting courses. It meant there was some more direction and interest in my life. I also started taking time out for me, going to the gym etc. I would say look at what you could do in your current set up to make life better begore doing something you may live to regret. If it's still not right after you've tried everything else than reassess the situation

You sound unhappy. I think it's definitely worth exploring why you feel that way. Yes the past 6 months have been tough but it sounds like there may be more to how you're feeling than just that.

Early 30s is a difficult age ime, you suddenly realise you don't have as much time as you did in your 20s and it can make you take stock of things and reassess your life and what you want. I would suggest that you think about what you want your life to look like going forwards. Is this just a rut, can you figure out a way forwards with your DP? Or has your relationship run its course?