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To think you can’t fall back in love again...

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ThatsNotMyCherry · 15/09/2020 23:13

once you’ve fallen out of it with someone?

To cut a long story short I’ve fallen out of love with my husband in the last few years as I’ve never really felt valued by him. We are getting by trying to be good parents to our two small children but sometimes I get tired of pretending everything is ok with us and we have a row every few months after which we make up and go back to normal. I think deep down I wish he would just admit that we are co-parents and not a couple as that would make things easier. This time he’s suggested that I get therapy to figure out why I don’t love him but I don’t think that will help. I already know why but he’s unwilling or unable to do anything about it. He’s a nice guy but I feel indifferent to him and don’t really want a physical or emotional relationship with him. I know we might be better off apart but that feels like such a huge step.

Is it possible to fall in love again or do I need to figure out how to move forward without love?

OP posts:
W00t · 16/09/2020 00:13

Have a look at the books by John Gottman and Andrew Marshall.

ThatsNotMyCherry · 16/09/2020 05:23

Thanks, will do

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SelkieQualia · 16/09/2020 05:47

It is possible to fall back in love, IF you are BOTH willing to work at it and get therapy.

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