Are the coronavirus rules causing issues in your relationship?

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Who is BU?

We are currently having problems getting a test for younger DC who recently had a fever which cleared up after a few hours.

The consequence of this has been we have had to isolate our family which involves missing work and school for our older child. Very very frustrating and this is not what I choose but in my view, the rules are the rules and if everybody ignores them we will continue to be in this mess.

DP, it appears has different values about this to me and is not keen to isolate or for the older child to miss out on opportunities. He has said he wants to carry on taking DC (the one without fever) to extra curricular activities or he will go backwards in his progress. I totally understand where he is coming from but am shocked at his lack of sense and how selfish he is being.

It would be devious to carry on with the hobby while the rest of the children and their parents there are unaware there has been a fever in our family. I believe it would be better to miss the hobby, especially as he isn't at school, and because we would lose the trust of everyone who knows us if they found out about it.

It is causing problems when I state my case, as DP says it all boils down to common sense and stays I am stupid to isolate for a seasonal cold.

Not sure how to handle this as I am a rule follower and DP is clearly more challenging of these rules.

Any advice appreciated and I would also be interested in hearing from anyone in a similar situation and how you resolved it.

No, because we're both using our common sense rather than listening to the shitshow government.

You’ll never get a sensible answer OP, because there are lots of people who don’t care about breaking the rules. They will do want they want and seek to justify it because “ the government is shit” or “the rules don’t make sense” or “they are using their common sense & judging the risk” (which people are in fact notoriously bad at doing) - just like PP in fact!

It’s shit to have to isolate, I get that, but you’re right & it’s anti-social to do otherwise and disrespectful to all the people who have worked to keep us safe at personal risk, or have made sacrifices (not going to ill loved ones etc).
Don’t suppose he’ll listen to you though....