Stuck living with my parents

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Don't get me wrong, we get on brilliantly and it's no bother, but I feel like I'm stuck and can't move forwards with my life. I want my own space. My two year old is sharing a bedroom with me as there's no space, which disturbs both of us at night, but looking at the cost of rent near me, for a 2 bed place with somewhere to park my car is just totally out of my reach financially. I've been left in financial shit after leaving an abusive relationship. I was emotionally, racially, physically and sexually abused. This was the reason I left to be with my parents. I'm finally feeling confident enough to move on, but don't know how people do it. Any tips on how I can find somewhere semi decent to live with huge childcare costs and a low income? Seems I'd be better off if I gave up work... ☹️

Bump

When your 2 year old turns 3 you will get 30 hours free childcare which should help a lot. Also check with turn2us and see what uc help you can get if you rent. In your circumstances I would think buying maybe different furniture to make the room more suitable and waiting it out until 3 is sensible - save up for your rental deposit etc during that time

How about a 1 bed? Your toddler can easily share with you.

I'd love him to have his own room. But I guess beggars can't be choosers. I get universal credit, but not much because I pay rent to family members.

Where do you live in the country?

This probably sounds stupid but are you able to save any money whilst living with your parents?

Are you able to apply for council housing as you may be classified as overcrowded at your parents? Have you tried any housing associations?

This may sound stupid but if you could save (or if your parents could give you a deposit) could you buy somewhere even if it was a one bed? Are there any shared ownership schemes. I know it sound stupid but when I bought my first house my mortgage was £200 cheaper than the rent!

When will your DS qualify for 30 hours nursery as that will help as well

I’m Afraid that like almost everyone else you will need to compromise if you can’t afford what you want. Get a one bed and a sofa bed in the living room. Do without a dedicated parking space. Get a second job in the evenings or weekends and ask family to watch your child. Apply to CSA to Get child support from your child’s father. Study at home / online /open university to get a qualification and a better paid job. Move somewhere with better public transport and get rid of your car.

There’s no easy answers I’m afraid. Leaving an abusive relationship is hard. Being a single mum is hard. You just have to accept the choices you made in the past and move on.

You have left an abusive relationship so you have made a great first step. Where you are in your life is just temporary.
You want your own place- that's a great goal to work towards. So start off small - look for a one bed. Then work towards a two bed. Everything takes time.