Aibu

[Rainbowsparkles19]

There is 2 years between my sister and I. We don't get on, we have been estranged for quite a while, although I have tried to fix this on numerous occasions only to be ignored.
She has made it very clear to me on numerous occasions her dislike for my fiancé.
This is the reason we fell out because she said some horrible things about him to me & other people. This is the main reason I don't want to invite her. Why would I want her there when she's said such vile things about my h2b?
I've told this to my parents but they keep guilt tripping me by saying she's my sister & she'll be crushed if I don't invite her.
I don't know what to do.
We're hoping to get married early next year. We haven't been able to plan anything with everything going on with Covid 19.

I just wondered if there is anyone else in the same position? xxx

Sorry, invite her to what? Your wedding? If yes, then I'd invite her and be civil.

You could invite her but make it clear you’d like an apology if she is going to attend.
Or elope and avoid the drama...

Nope, only invite people you love. If you don't want her there, don't invite her.

I hate the whole falseness and people-pleasing of weddings. Why invite someone who won't be happy to celebrate your big day with you?

Offer a half hearted invite

She’d be crushed not to see you marry a man she doesn’t like and has repeatedly been rude about? That sounds highly unlikely.

Stop trying to make amends if she can’t behave decently towards the man you’re choosing to marry and share your life with. Don’t be bullied or manipulated by your parents! It’s your husband, your wedding, your life. Fuck including her as a reward for her bad behaviour and being civil. You wouldn’t be taking the high road, you’d be being a mug. Does he even want her there? It’s his wedding too.

If you don't invite her, it might be the final nail in the coffin.
Invite her if you want any hope of future relationship.

YABU to use AIBU as a title for your thread.

So you're estranged from her, she ignores any attempts by you to reconcile and she hates your fiance? No don't invite her to your wedding to play happy families for the sake of your mother. I have a sister who wasn't invited to my wedding - she's also very unpleasant and a lose cannon. No regrets here.

No, don’t invite her. I had the same nonsense with an absolute cow of an aunt. Didn’t invite her and the day was much better for it.

If she wasn't your sister you wouldn't think twice about inviting her. Why should an accident of birth make any difference?

Sorry not inviting her.

But if you have tried to make things up and she has ignored then why would she want to come to the wedding anyway?

Invite her and leave the ball in her court.

What doesn’t she like about him?

Where has her dislike come from for your fiance? If its not something reasonable for instance trying to protect you etc. then I wouldnt bother inviting her. It'll be the final nail in the relationship coffin but I couldnt be mithered with the added stress of that on my wedding day!

Thisisnotnormal69. Apparently he didn't make any effort when we got invited to her house for a Christmas party. He just sat there sulking. Which he didn't, he's was just shy as it was only the second time meeting my grandma & he'd only met my family a few times before that as we'd only been together a out 6 months. And then she wasn't happy left the party earlier to meet friends for drinks. Apparently he doesn't look after me.
Apparently he's wrecked some of my belongings & been aggressive towards me. Non of this is true. Xxxx