So, every since I met dh, he has always been helping BIL financially. I didn't really think much of it at the time as I wasn't aware of the situation, plus he can do whatever he wants with his money. However, now that we are married this is continuing and it's starting to affect me. BIL is in his early twenties, he is studying part time, he used to work part-time but has quit so he can concentrate on his studies. DH is always giving him money for everything - college expenses, new clothes, going out with his friends, living expenses. Basically anything and everything. He has now informed me that he wants to take out a rather large loan to help Bil fund his business project! Every time I try to talk to dh about it, he gets very defensive and tells me something like "he's my family, of course I will help him out" basically making me out to be the bad one.
I don't mind helping out BIL if he genuinely needs help, but we are really not in a good position financially for him to be doing that, especially not getting into debt because of bil! I feel like he (BIL) is definitely taking advantage of dh's generosity and will continue asking for more and more.
What do you think? Am I being unreasonable?