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Are you planning on changing your Christmas plans ?

222 replies

Lardlizard · 14/09/2020 11:52

By keeping to six only ?

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MsAwesomeDragon · 14/09/2020 17:30

We only ever have at the most anyway, and even that's not Christmas Day. So Christmas Eve my parents visit us, my brother normally comes too which takes us up to 7, but he'd be quite happy to stay at home.

Visit mil on boxing day and we'll be thrilled to just see her rather than have sil + partner + 2 kids as well. That's normally 8 of us, and we get to sit in her living room watching nephews play Xbox Hmm. So getting to actually talk to mil, without them sounds great to me!!

I quite like the thought of a Christmas where we aren't forced into seeing a load of people we don't even necessarily like, just because they're family and it's Christmas.

DogInATent · 14/09/2020 17:43

It sounds like this year may be a very good year for those that feel pressured into stressful planning or meeting people they don't want to, to take a breather and say...

Right, not this year. We're having a quiet one.

Honestly, it may be the best decision you ever make. There is no one that you can't meet up with or see at any other time of the year. If Christmas makes you stressed/anxious, why the .... are you doing it that way?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 14/09/2020 17:46

@ilovesooty

I'm just wondering how many people on social media in my area who told Muslims to suck it up when they were unable to celebrate Eid are going to kick off if we're still under local restrictions at Christmas.
That was predicted right then and there were 2 arguments back as well. 1- It's not the same (duruddur I am a moron), 2- obviously I will keep any restrictions (because i think they won't be in by that time anyway).
DizzyPigeon · 14/09/2020 17:49

I haven't made any plans yet, so I'm not sure if the answer is yes (I'm going to make plans at some point) or no (there are no plans to change as of yet)

SideAfries · 14/09/2020 17:50

I plan on having the whole family, like every year. I’m confident the ‘rule of six’ will have been lifted by then 🤞🏼

Clockworkprincess · 14/09/2020 17:59

Either way we do it we'll be hitting seven, my fanily or dps. We're supposed to be with dps family this year but don't really fancy travelling out of our area and to be fair we live in quite a bad area at the moment so not holding me breath for christmas.

lazylinguist · 14/09/2020 18:02

I'm planning to wait and see if the guidelines change. But yes, if the 'rule of 6' is still in place by the end if November we will change our plans.

MoistMolly · 14/09/2020 18:16

Definitely not changing our plans

BlueJava · 14/09/2020 18:17

I don't have Xmas plans - it is September!

Khajit · 14/09/2020 18:21

I like to have a plan too, but I think things are changing too much just now to decide anything.

I'm just going to keep my expectations low.

Heidi1976 · 14/09/2020 18:28

There are 5 of us just in our family on Christmas Day. Our family tradition is to go to my parents for Christmas Day. My brother and wife always go too. In total that would be 9. I'm not planning on changing that. The government are currently telling us to stick to the rules while trying to break international law and allowing hunting to be exempt from the rule of 6. They can jog on.

Wakemeupwhenthisisover · 14/09/2020 18:32

No I won’t be changing my Xmas plans

GoingBackTo505 · 14/09/2020 18:44

No I won't be changing my plans. There'll be 8 of us- 6 adults and two young children. Even if the rule of 6 hasn't been lifted, we'll still go ahead with our Christmas. Life does need to go on.

S111n20 · 14/09/2020 18:51

**GoingBackTo505

No I won't be changing my plans. There'll be 8 of us- 6 adults and two young children. Even if the rule of 6 hasn't been lifted, we'll still go ahead with our Christmas. Life does need to go on.

100% agree. There will be 10 of us...4 adults 6 kids.

TH22 · 14/09/2020 18:52

There's usually 8 for dinner and there will be 8 again this year!

Rebelwithallthecause · 14/09/2020 20:34

Meant to be 22 of us together over Christmas if you include under 12’s

Who knows what will happen by then

I’m not cancelling just yet

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 14/09/2020 21:03

I have suggested to my boys that we have some sort of Hunger Games style trial, to see which one of them gets to come for Christmas. I am now being spammed with pictures of their puppies (well, ds1’s puppy and ds2’s girlfriend’s puppy) - I’m meant to choose the cutest puppy, so they can come, with the relevant adults.

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 14/09/2020 21:05

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

I have suggested to my boys that we have some sort of Hunger Games style trial, to see which one of them gets to come for Christmas. I am now being spammed with pictures of their puppies (well, ds1’s puppy and ds2’s girlfriend’s puppy) - I’m meant to choose the cutest puppy, so they can come, with the relevant adults.
Oh my actual god thats an impossible choice

Can you not just invite the pups and forget about the kids

RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 14/09/2020 21:06

My plan is to put a ladder next to the back fence

First sign of po po and im sending a child or my 75 year old dad over the fence

carlukefair · 14/09/2020 21:06

Yes, having tentative conversations now to be fair to family members who may need to plan ahead. Just not prepared to risk various members of our family, from various areas of the country, squashing in to one poorly ventilated space for hours on end. COVID for Christmas is not happening.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 14/09/2020 21:13

”Can you not just invite the pups and forget about the kids“

Sounds like the best idea, @RufustheSniggeringReindeer!

DigitalGhost · 14/09/2020 21:21

8 of us. 6 adults and 2 kids under 5 so we'll be still be getting together whether the rule is in place or not. This year has sucked enough, not having a crappy Christmas to top it off.
I imagine they'll cave on the rule applying to kids by the end of this month anyway.

walker1891 · 14/09/2020 21:24

Yep, I'll be having Christmas alone.

AlwaysLatte · 14/09/2020 21:24

Yes we'll have to as we were going to have 11 :-( unless the rules change again, but I doubt it. So we'll have 6 and 5 over two days instead.

alphabetti · 14/09/2020 21:48

If newborns are not included we will be sticking to the rules if not then we will have to break them. There’s me DP, DS and DD and baby due beginning December. My mum
and brother always come Christmas Day and can’t tell them no plus my mum will help with the cooking and kids so feel she will be needed. My brother usually works long hours so he doesn’t get many chances to spend time with the kids.

My DP has a son tho however his mum says he has to spend Christmas with her and her family. That’s ok we respect that and usually have a little Christmas with him and DP mum and step dad a couple days before. We will then be 7 people and a newborn in house unless I send my 2 to their grandmas but that doesn’t seem right.

I am welcoming the fact that we won’t be able to have loads of visitors coming round when have a newborn and just planning to have movie days with simple food instead of having people visit or having to visit others.