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is this innocent?

25 replies

GreyfrairsStone · 14/09/2020 00:15

in my husband's phone search history was this...'receive my messages in secure folder'
To my mind this is an odd search but could there be an innocent explanation?
AIBU to be suspicious?

OP posts:
seayork2020 · 14/09/2020 00:16

How do you know what is in his search history, did he show you? if you are looking yourself anything he does will be suspicious to you so you must be looking for a reason - just ask him about why you are suspicious

Aquamarine1029 · 14/09/2020 00:17

Why were you snooping through his phone?

Anordinarymum · 14/09/2020 00:17

Why did you look at his phone

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 14/09/2020 00:18

You're obviously suspicious anyway if you're looking through his phone.

What else he been doing?

BlueThistles · 14/09/2020 00:18

JESUS CHRIST ALMIGHTY ... 🙄

Original poster
GreyfrairsStone · 14/09/2020 00:52

We often use each other's phones and know the passwords so it wasn't a case of snooping

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Corono · 14/09/2020 01:07

But why were you looking at his search history? Have you other suspicions?

seayork2020 · 14/09/2020 01:09

I have DH's password but that is only to help him with apps & settings for him so sure I may know what app he has on if I was that bothered or how to turn his volume up/down for him etc. (he is not mobile minded) but I have no idea on his history etc.

If for some reason I did notice anything I would just ask him - over 20 years of knowing him apart from having boring interests there is nothing exciting there

so again just ask him

srah21 · 14/09/2020 01:12

Ask him!

PyongyangKipperbang · 14/09/2020 01:39

No

Anordinarymum · 14/09/2020 01:47

@PyongyangKipperbang

No
Eh ?
Maddison12 · 14/09/2020 01:47

There definitely could be an innocent explanation yes but since its nearly 2am my brain is struggling to think of one!
If someone wants to 'receive messages in a secure folder' clearly they don't want anyone reading the messages they're receiving. Why would anyone do this if they've nothing to hide?

LagunaBubbles · 14/09/2020 01:49

You might "often" use his phone but why look up the search history?

PyongyangKipperbang · 14/09/2020 01:49

"Is this innocent?"

"no"

JuanNil · 14/09/2020 01:57

Is his search history innocent? Perhaps not. But neither are you now. If you had suspicions it would be more understandable, but I can never get my head around people who just casually snoop for no reason and then say it's because they tripped and fell into the 'evidence'. Just be honest with yourself.

lilmishap · 14/09/2020 02:05

Secure folder is what people use when someone is going through their phone.

How else is he going to tell people "she's going through my phone" without you seeing?

Anordinarymum · 14/09/2020 02:09

@PyongyangKipperbang

"Is this innocent?"

"no"

Ah.. the penny drops :)
lilmishap · 14/09/2020 02:12

@Maddison12 Work confidentiality, Banking, financial, It is just shit you dont want a mugger to read if they get your handset/hack you.Its offered on certain phones so it's not a strange search, I've searched google for shit I don't understand on my phone.

Cheaters are using other apps and sim cards if they're making the effort

FedUpSomeMore · 14/09/2020 02:21

How is it not snooping? It sounds like you haven't asked him yourself? Why wouldn't you if he knew you were in his search history?

Dh and I also know each other's passcodes and occasionally use each other's phone, I've never once accidentally ended up going through his search history, and I'd be annoyed if my husband went through it behind my back. Is there something that's making you concerned about his behaviour?

maybelou · 14/09/2020 02:24

Uhh the search history usually comes up on a phone as soon as you go to type a new search so OP isn't necessarily 'snooping', especially as she's said they often use each other's phones 🙄

seayork2020 · 14/09/2020 02:27

@maybelou

Uhh the search history usually comes up on a phone as soon as you go to type a new search so OP isn't necessarily 'snooping', especially as she's said they often use each other's phones 🙄
If that is the actual case then it can be innocent or not we can't answer the question there is only one person who can so that person should be asked!
Maddison12 · 14/09/2020 02:27

@lilmishap Thanks! I knew there would be some innocent explanationsGrin and very ashamed that I didn't think of even one of thoseBlush

FedUpSomeMore · 14/09/2020 02:29

I've just gone through the last few days of my own search history and with "fishy willy" "how to delete iCloud photos" and some love honey searches amongst the boring "Tesco book a slot" I could look like I'm up to something myself Grin

JuanNil · 14/09/2020 02:33

[quote Maddison12]@lilmishap Thanks! I knew there would be some innocent explanationsGrin and very ashamed that I didn't think of even one of thoseBlush[/quote]
Name change fail?

FedUpSomeMore · 14/09/2020 02:44

Uhh the search history usually comes up on a phone as soon as you go to type a new search so OP isn't necessarily 'snooping', especially as she's said they often use each other's phones 🙄

He could be up to no good, he might not be. But you'd think he'd cover his tracks and clear out his search history if he regularly gives his phone to his partner, esp if his settings bring them up from the search box.

My search history could look dodgy but my husband would just ask if some of the weirder stuff came up by coincidence due to his search term being similar. If this bloke is trying to hide texts from the partner he regularly hands his phone to then you'd think he'd search in incognito or clear it out after or something. Which is why I asked if there's a reason she thinks it's not innocent and didn't ask when it came up.

If he has form then it increases the chances of it not being innocent but all the more the reason to ask him.

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