Even writing this feels like a huge confession. For some time now I’ve been feeling more and more distant from my husband. We have two children, aged 6 and 3. It feels like we’re either exchanging parenting handovers with each other or I’m with the kids and he’s out doing his hobbies. I can’t remember the last time we put any effort into our relationship. When he’s home in the evening he’s online updating social media posts as part of his hobby, which he’s obsessed with. I feel as though since we’ve had kids we’ve never got “us” back. If I’ve tried to bring this up in the past he’s always brushed over it and said everyone’s the same with kids. But I’m feeling more and more there’s just no effort on his part and I’m feeling less and less interested in trying to make things better. If anyone has been in this situation would love to hear some advice. Is this what other couples do? It doesn’t feel like a healthy balanced relationship but maybe everyone is floating around doing the same as us.