To really despise this argument?

[TullyMcFully]

When people say 'well they are just lucky their parents are together' when discussing resident children and step children being treated differently.

Now I know there are huge issues with step children being treated less favourably in certain situations, I've seen threads on here and I don't condone that at all.

But I've also seen the opposite happen as well, where resident children and their feelings don't seem to matter to posters or even get considered at all. And someone always pops up with the above.

AIBU to think you cannot expect children to think this way and that children should not have to feel lucky that their parents are together and accept less favourable treatment just because of that.

I don’t think it’s the children who’s parents are together who get the unfavourable treatment but usually the step children from experience. Friends would say the same.

I have a stepson and would very strongly argue that my children have it much easier than my lovely stepson. He has had to live between 2 homes with different expectations, rules and friends nearby at each. Never spent Xmas with both his mum and dad. Had to live with the knowledge that though they tolerated each other they didn't love each other. Had to deal with the jealousy that his siblings got to live with both parents all the time. He is a wonderful young adult now but would much have preferred for his parents to live together and love each other.