AIBU to think this is caused by new baby?

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My baby is now 14 months and has been an okay sleeper. Always consistently sleeps 12-13 hours a night with a few hiccups every now and again which usually sort themselves out. She self settles and will roll about before going to sleep on her own, settling herself if she wakes in the night.

She has started this week completely flat out protesting naps every time we do the nap time routine she will fight to get away and will cry and scream if she is put down in the cot she will scream for as long as she’s left for (I don’t leave her to cry for ages) a few minutes at most but when I go back to lay her down or give dummy she throws herself back against the cot and resists being held after that but is okay once she is in a different room. I’ve recently had a new baby but my older baby has adjusted quite well up to now just this issue in the past week.

Today I have tried on several occasions since 11:30 am to get her to nap after waking at 7:30. It is now 2:30 and she is in the cot screaming. She’s never resisted being settled before and has has food Calpol and everything already so it’s not hunger or pain that I can tell. What the he’ll do i do. It’s so hard with two of them especially when one is behaving like this. Am I unreasonable to think the new baby is causing the older to fight this much to resist w nap. So far she hasn’t done this for night time but I’m sure she will start soon.

Aw, just seen she has a temperature, that will be why. Calpol takes a time to bring temperature down, if she's ill, she won't want to settle as much.

Sounds more like separation anxiety to me tbh

Dc1 dropped naps altogether by that age. Dc2 was done napping by 15/16 months. Certainly neither of them would ever have gone down at that age once they were beyond 8 or so months. Some children need less sleep.

I don't necessarily think she's growing out of naps but the more times you try the same thing the worse it gets! It's why you have to pick the right moment! Mine napped until 2.5 and approx 3.5 but even those wouldn't nap if it all went to pot and they repeatedly resisted, so the odd no-nap day but back to normal next day or so. I'd definitely be looking at bedtime by 6.30 if they haven't napped.
Oh and trying a nice pushchair walk or car drive after lunch... obviously hard with new baby

Thanks for your responses. Her bedtime is 6:30-7 anyway just because she usually has a nap that’s around 45 mins and she’s ready for bed then after bath and supper. I hope she goes down easy for bed I’m shattered! I’ve just never had a day where she hasn’t napped before and I tried 1pm for her nap but she started refusing that more often than not and struggled to make it past 11am.

I thought separation anxiety to be honest but then I thought it couldn’t really be that because when I go to get her up she throws herself back in cot and resists being held (at least she does today).

My 2yo dripped naps altogether after he turned 1

dropped posted to early. He just refused to have them. Goes to 6:30 till 7 or 8 now

I would say you are putting her down for a nap too early. What about moving lunch forward to about 11.30am and putting her down for about 12.30-1pm and then let her nap for an hour or max two. That way you could still get her to bed for 7-7.30pm which would leave you with the rest of the evening. Sleep regression is totally normal. My dd only gave up naps at 3 whereas my son did at 2.

Honestly if she has the energy to protest from 11.30 until 2.40 she’s not tired and definitely doesn’t need a nap!

She was exhausted and very cranky she had her bath and went to bed with no issues a few minutes ago. She didn’t have any protesting etc. I’m not sure this is a win though as she was exhausted. Today has been so draining!

I did try 1pm nap but she was having 20 mins then being a crank all the way until bedtime. 12 works best for her but tomorrow I’m going to just try 1pm and see how she is. Thank you. Fingers crossed we have w good night.