To want to be good enough

[Alice12070]

When I was younger my mum died and I was left to live with my dad who was...less than a pleasant man and out his wife and step kids before his own children and let his wife be horrible to us. I'm no longer in touch with him or any of his family and don't get on with my mums family, so its literally just me. No matter what I done I was never good enough fo him, passed all of my exams when he said I'd never be able to pass them all, got a job e.t.c and it was never good enough. Now I'm at uni and to know that even if I was in touch with him to graduate with a honours degree wouldnt be enough for him. I've spent my whole life not being good enough for this man and I'm honestly sick of feeling so low about myself due to never being enough

You absolutely are ‘good enough’ OP - him not recognising that is his problem, not yours. It is not any lack of talent, ability or effort on your part that means he doesn’t appreciate you. I’m so sorry he is like that - you deserve better.

You are completely, 100% good enough.

You are enough , you are special and important and you matter and congrats on your achievements of getting a job and getting into uni which is a challenge for many , you should be proud of your self OP , you deserve to be

You say you're no longer in touch with him yet you still strive to be 'good enough' for him so obviously you're still holding onto the relationship. Let go, live your life and be happy. The only person you need to be good enough for I'd yourself.

You are good enough. He's immature & massively insecure so he builds himself up by putting you down. Been there with my DM. It helps to see him as the pathetic ,damaged person he is. He won't change. But you are obviously making strides and succeeding in life. Tell yourself that often enough & you'll start to see you don't need his approval any more. It will also make you a great parent if you choose that route in life,because you are intelligent & self aware, so won't repeat his mistakes.