What do we do with SD?

[Albustydumbledore]

SD has been here all weekend and is due to go back to mum today. We've all been sniffly for days which we thought was just because of school starting.
SD is 9. We are a family of 6. Started with a sore throat and cold symptoms that developed into continuous coughing and temps during the night for me and my daughter. It feels awful, DH has been trying to book a test all night.
SD seems ok but has been with us all weekend and constantly wants to snuggle up to me, cuddle and be right next to me or DH so she's probably caught it too.
Do we send her back to mum who has a baby, her and her husband work with the public and will likely kick off, or will she need to isolate with us?
No agenda or drippy back story, just need to know the actual right thing to do to get in touch today. I don't want an argument but also don't want other people to get sick.

Probably best to give her mum a call and explain the situation, and you can all decide together what's best.

So s give her mum a call to discuss

Personally my ex and I have decided that if that scenario or similar was to happen our son would stay with whichever parents house he was at until the isolation period was over / negative tests came back

Isolate with you, but speak to her mum about it too. Test results come back within a couple of days so get her booked in too.

Speak to the mum

Yeah my husband will speak to her mum when he wakes up. Just didn't really know what to suggest. There aren't guidelines on these kinds of situations are there?

@Changedmynamelots

Isolate with you, but speak to her mum about it too. Test results come back within a couple of days so get her booked in too.

Please don’t rely on test results coming back so quickly - since schools have gone back getting tests is very hard in lots of areas of the country and results are taking longer than the 72h stated

I got test on Weds am and I got my test results back late Thursday PM. It was more difficult booking one but I did get a slot after a few hours of trying. So still pretty quick at the moment

If I was the mum I'd want my daughter back home

If you had a test because you had symptoms, you and anyone you live with must stay at home (self-isolate) until you get your result.

Anyone in your support bubble must also self-isolate until you get your result.

This is Nhs so she either self isolates with you or with mum.

@donnadenise I'd be the same Donna

OP is your family of 6 including or excluding your SD and is that what you are concerned about - breaking the rules? You can be more than 6 if that is the size of your household and that includes children who are travelling between parents

If I was the mum I might be happy for her to stay with dad tbh, depends on the children in the other house and if it was not too uncomfortable for the child.

I would speak to mum asap, and then make a plan.

In virus terms, it's better to stay at yours, unless she doesn't get on well with dad.

@Womencanlift no we're 6 including SD

@RepeatSwan we love having her here and she loves being here. She's completely adored and has had a good weekend. But mum can be difficult. Has spent years and years trying to split me and her dad up which is irrelevant to be fair on this occasion. It's just you don't know what to do do you.

The advice is to keep her with you so as to prevent further spread of the virus.

[quote Albustydumbledore]@RepeatSwan we love having her here and she loves being here. She's completely adored and has had a good weekend. But mum can be difficult. Has spent years and years trying to split me and her dad up which is irrelevant to be fair on this occasion. It's just you don't know what to do do you. [/quote]
No, I did wonder, it can be a bit fraught.

If mum wants her back there'd be no resistance from me - but if I was the mum and had other children, I might be happy to leave the virus where it is tbh, at least til.covid is tested.

Hope all goes well, fingers crossed you get a test!!