To think I'm not being rude?

[mrsuncomfortable]

Still living with my parents in law we have a week left now until we move into our new house.

I keep getting anxiety thinking I'm getting in the way of MIL and FIL so I've come upstairs early. I get bad anxiety before my period is due so that plays a huge part it in.

We're meant to be having a takeaway tonight but I'm just not feeling sociable so I've just come up to bed OH says it's rude but I just need a night to myself.

AIBU to stay up here?

Yanbu

If you've explained to them that you're not well, that's fine.

If you've just disappeared and expect partner to make your excuses, that's rude.

@ChaChaCha2012

If you've explained to them that you're not well, that's fine.

If you've just disappeared and expect partner to make your excuses, that's rude.

This ^^

As long as you explain you're not up to food & being social it's not rude. Rude would be just disappearing with no explanation. Shouldn't you eat something though? Lack of food & skipping meals can make your mood dive at best of times.

They've just popped out to get the takeaway and I've come upstairs so now I need to go downstairs when they come back and explain that I don't feel well. UGH I hate this

No it is not rude at all to say you're not up for company tonight. Enjoy your rest.

You really should explain rather than just vanishing. It’s not at all unreasonable to want some time to yourself though.

Your DH can explain, surely? They won’t expect you to come downstairs if you’re ill just to say you’re ill. Plus you’d have to overact and put on a limp, clutch your head, cough, wear the dressing gown of doom, etc. Just stay upstairs. Your DH can also helpfully come to check on you with a portion of takeaway “in case you’re up to managing it”.

Could you manage to eat with them and then feign a headache and head upstairs to bed? Missing meals will exacerbate your anxiety symptoms and it won't seem at all rude/antisocial IMO if you eat with the family as planned and then decide to have an early night.

If they've gone for a takeaway, you should have made your excuses before they ordered. You do sound rather ungracious.

Me and OH have already eaten we've not long got back. I keep feeling very awkward and anxious just hanging around all the time. When we came I in they was just going to get the takeaway and I put the kids in bed and I got into bed myself.

You've only got a week to go. Be polite, say you're having an early night and go to bed. It's miserable house sharing - won't be long now!