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AIBU?

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AIBU? Neighbour behaviour

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lockdownloopylala · 12/09/2020 18:42

A regular, but have name changed just incase!

I live in a row of terraced houses. On 1 side I have the neighbours from Hell- teenage kid keeps having loud parties (when I say loud, the house actually shakes from the noise. Like having a rave in my front room). This has gone on for many years and has been reported to the noise abatement officers at the council, who have had to intervene several times.
To the other side, I have always got on well with the family. However, as born again Christians, I hear the scriptures being played all day every day. If it is not that it is dance music or gospel songs/religious. Quite a mix! It starts about 10am then usually all day until the kids come home from school when she turns it off.
I have that all day, then the other side all night. It is exhausting.
During lockdown I have been working from home. I started in the front of the house but had to move as couldn't hear myself think for the music. My clients could even make out the songs down the phone (not ideal). I moved to a different room and have tried explaining to my neighbour that I work during the day and it is really distracting.
Over the years I have repeatedly texted her to ask her to turn it down. Never off, just down. I dont need silence, I have just asked her to turn the level down-this usually ends up with her turning it off (in protest?).

It was on all day again today as she was sunbathing in the garden (so plays it loudly through the house). I have had enough. I put my speaker next to her wall and played the bagpipes, very loudly, for about an hour.
She came banging on my door, then let herself in (we have keys for each others houses if needed), and came in yelling and swearing 'turn that fucking music down. You are a piss taking '
It would seem she doesn't like a taste of her own medicine, but I have tried. I have tried talking about it, asking her politely, texting her if it is too much. Over 5 years I think I have been very patient.
I have got on with her ovr the years and am sad it has come to this. I live on my own and don't think I make much noise, but get it constantly from both sides.
Have I been unreasonable giving her a taste of her own medicine? Should I apologise or leave it as point made?

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BruceAndNosh · 12/09/2020 18:44

Did you get your key back off her?

mbosnz · 12/09/2020 18:46

Oh dear. I'm sorry, I think you've been more than reasonable, and am chuckling at the bagpipes.

cabingirl · 12/09/2020 18:46

Doesn't sound very Christian of her!

You could go with: "I'm sorry the music disturbed you but that is what it's like for me every day with your music. What shall we do to compromise?"

Then bagpipe her every time her music is too loud.

BMW6 · 12/09/2020 18:49

Yes, make sure you get the key back and tell her that you will do it again EVERY time she is too loud.

I'd turn the speakers onto the other neighbours wall too - bagpipe music bound to annoy the loud teens!

Budgiesareloud · 12/09/2020 18:50

Might I suggest Irish punk instead of the bagpipes if you find yourself in need of a change

I have had great success with this in similar situations

lockdownloopylala · 12/09/2020 18:51

I was born in Scotland so don't mind the bagpipes!

@cabingirl, I did try and say that. I said 'i hope you can see how disturbing it is to have music played. I get it from them all night (she knows) and you all day' It fell on deaf ears amongst the expletives being used. She then went back and continued shouting and screaming in her kitchen about me.
Seems she doesn't like a taste of her own medicine

@BruceAndNosh I was going to text her to ask her to return my key at her earliest opportunity, but felt after the Eastenders scene which was recreated on my doorstep, it would just add fuel to the fire. I will ask when it has calmed down

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lockdownloopylala · 12/09/2020 18:55

@BMW6 I do that too! I wait until they surface the next day and the pizza is being delivered......so, right about the time the hangover is kicking in, and I play it to them too.
I sound like the crazy woman next door.Confused

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Pleatherandlace · 12/09/2020 19:07

Hit her with the pipes, every time, but ideally move. The whole situation sounds awful

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