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Being called a liar when I'm not a liar ..it's not ok?

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idontthinkicare · 12/09/2020 09:53

I've posted the other day and here I am again I'm sorry about that.
A ex friend rang the police months ago and said I was financially abusing my dying mother (who passed two weeks ago )
She did this after I asked her to pay back the money she owed me.
She is a serial liar.
Two of her friends she introduced me too had become my friends.
One of the girls spoke every day and we got on like a house on fire.
Anyway the police /social services checked my bank statements and I keep receipts (thank god ) and they said everything was good and it was malicious and left me alone
I didn't mention any of it to these two "friends"
One of them lately kept dropping things into the convo about fraud etc (god knows what ex friend was saying "
Anyway I pulled her up on it the other day and told her the full story.
She said I was a liar and I had no proof it was ex friend and this wasn't over,it would still be getting investigated.
She said I was lying about them being satisfied with receipts /statements etc.
So I showed her proof it was over (emails ,texts ) she replied saying
I don't care
Then that was last I heard from her
I'm stuck
How can she not believe me ?
I've showed proof
Why was she so quick to listen to mutual friend?
I really like her and thought we were friends.

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BiscoffAnythingIsTheWayForward · 12/09/2020 14:08

Drop them. End of. They are not friends and this is playground fodder. You know you’re not lying so you don’t need their validation. They are quite frankly, pathetic.

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idontthinkicare · 12/09/2020 14:14

Believe it or not I'm not normally so weak.
My gran died the 3 days later my mum.
They were both my best friends and I just feel really vulnerable.
I need to get a grip.
They are poisonous.

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billy1966 · 12/09/2020 14:17

You have 3 wonderful friends and yet you are obsessed with 3 horrible friends?

Put them out of your head and stop needlessly winding yourself up.

Take careFlowers

WildAboutMyPlanet · 12/09/2020 14:33

You are vulnerable and grieving right now, so this sort of thing will feel extra painful. They are NOT your friends. A real friend wouldnt abuse you when you have just lost your mum. You have nothing to prove to these people. I understand why you would want to, it must be awful for you, but now is not the time. Concentrate on yourself. Look after yourself, I’m sorry you’re going through this. X

StillCoughingandLaughing · 12/09/2020 14:41

Believe it or not I'm not normally so weak.

You are NOT weak - you are vulnerable and struggling. These people let you down at the worst possible time. Concentrate on the kind friends who are supporting you Smile

Cam2020 · 12/09/2020 14:42

People believe what they want to believe to suit themselves.

That doesn't make it any less, rage inducing for you, but there's nothing you can do to control their thoughts. Just cut all contact. If they try anything on SM can can sue for libel.

contrmary · 12/09/2020 14:44

She's a bitch and you would be best off cutting her out of your life entirely.

vlnr77yac · 12/09/2020 14:48

Why are you showing these 'girls' evidence like you're all in school? I can only put this madness down to the fact that you are recently bereaved. You need to get yourself some counselling asap because you just lost your Mum . Forget these bullies their time will come... soon enough.

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idontthinkicare · 12/09/2020 14:51

@vlnr77yac I know it's pathetic.
I was just in this mindset of trying to prove I was telling the truth and she was lying ..I couldn't see anything else.
I hate drama,I just want a nice happy life.

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twoshedsjackson · 12/09/2020 15:30

Thank goodness these "friends" are not the only ones you have. It sounds as if the support you really need is there, but you are (understandably) off-kilter after the bereavement.
Good luck for next Tuesday, and although everyone grieves differently, I'll pass on these observations.
I felt more relieved and clear-headed as soon as DM's funeral was over; feeling that I'd done everything I could for her and given her a decent send-off meant I could move on a bit.
Immediately after her death, I found myself getting very upset by petty annoyance given by other people which would normally just have made me mildly irked. Normally, you'd be able not to take these harpies seriously, justifying yourself to them as beneath your dignity.

vlnr77yac · 12/09/2020 16:05

@idontthinkicare

My love... Even when you showed them the evidence they didn't care because it wasn't about truth all along. It's about cruelty and torture.They know you lost you mum and they called the police on you for goodness sake!! If you didn't know it before now you know they're dangerously narcissistic and cruel. Ghost them and focus on yourself if you want a happy life.

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idontthinkicare · 12/09/2020 18:12

You have hit the nail on the head.
Maybe they wanted to believe it because they didn't want to believe how low the sunk and it was lies.
There's ways I could get my own back on them ..things one of them who rang is doing illegal
Would you report ?
Or would it make me as bad as them ?
They must have some serious hate for me

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idontthinkicare · 21/09/2020 15:09

Hi I hope someone can help buy this girl is now saying
I've been slating her family (I haven't said anything,I think they are all lovely)
I have been banging on her door (I haven't )
Saying I'm trying to turn people against her.
People are believing her
What the hell can I do ?
I feel like I can't prove it's her.

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StillCoughingandLaughing · 21/09/2020 15:35

Stay a long, long way away. They’re all nuts.

Anordinarymum · 21/09/2020 15:41

@idontthinkicare

Hi I hope someone can help buy this girl is now saying I've been slating her family (I haven't said anything,I think they are all lovely) I have been banging on her door (I haven't ) Saying I'm trying to turn people against her. People are believing her What the hell can I do ? I feel like I can't prove it's her.
Stop responding, and by that I mean telling people what they are doing because it is getting back to them.

STOP.

Being bereaved is enough to make to feel like you are going mental without all of this drama.

Listen to your friends and ignore the idiots

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idontthinkicare · 21/09/2020 17:01

All the messages I sent this other girl she showed my "friend"
I think they have all been in on it together.
Now this girl is saying she's scared of me???
I haven't done anything

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billyt · 21/09/2020 17:02

My cunt of an ex-brother reported me to the Police the day my mum died, accusing me of taking my mum's money. Even though I paid all her bills and then, with her permission and authority, transferred the money to my account. My fucking sister knew how things worked but because the bloke she left the husband for is a controlling bastard she never backed me up. I had all paperwork to present to the Police to prove that not only I acted with full authority but that these cunts knew that. They got a warning about wasting Police time. So people who were more concerned about their inheritance than my mum's well-being no longer exist to me.

IdontthinkIcare, the people who think you have done wrong don't matter. The ones who know you do matter.

Gazelda · 21/09/2020 17:12

Stay well away from her.
Distance yourself from the others who are stirring up the drama.
You're never going to stop her saying these things and the others from gossiping and passing info back to you unless you cut contact. Stop giving her and them a reaction.
You've 3 other friends who you trust and can rely on. Stick with those 3 and cut the rest out of your life.

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idontthinkicare · 21/09/2020 17:19

I thought about posting a really long message on Facebook explaining everything but I suppose that would achieve nothing anyway.
I feel so low.
The way they spoke to me yesterday
Sending me gifs of crazy people
I asked one of the girls if you thought so little why did you speak ?
She responded
Get a hobby you silly girl.

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GeorgiaWeLoveYou · 21/09/2020 17:30

Wash your hands of all three of them and move on.

They are nasty and spiteful and obviously lead very empty lives. It is truly disgusting to concoct stories about you abusing your dying mother. They are hideous people OP.

Don't think anymore of them and assume the police case is closed if that is what the police told you.

GeorgiaWeLoveYou · 21/09/2020 17:31

Don't entertain the Facebook messages or any communication with them at all. Block them all on everything and never speak to them again.

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idontthinkicare · 21/09/2020 17:49

I thought when I showed proof the two girls would believe me .
They turned it around and said your clearly obsessed with her.
She hasn't done anything wrong.
I was gobsmacked

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VettiyaIruken · 21/09/2020 17:53

Block them all. Make detailed records of everything so far. If they carry on, consider either reporting to the police or paying for a solicitor to write a back off or else letter.

VettiyaIruken · 21/09/2020 17:55

Posted too soon.
It's possible they think you might take action so are trying to create a situation where they are the victims.

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idontthinkicare · 21/09/2020 18:10

@VettiyaIruken I thought that.
Trying to cover their backs.
Saying it's "slander" and I have no proof.
Up until I mentioned this call to these 2 girls they were fine with me.

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