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termination? what to do?

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Conflictedscaredheartbroken · 12/09/2020 09:17

name changed for this as if linked to my previous posts will be very very outing to those that know me IRL.

I know this should be in pregnancy but AIBU is the board I frequent and its posters have become familiar to me so I suppose I kind of respect your opinions based on what I've seen on other posts.

I was referred for sterilisation pre lock down however with all that is occurring re covid etc obviously this hasn't happened.

currently 7/8 weeks PG, I have booked a termination for next week. I have other children one of whom has very severe and complex additional needs that will last his whole life (I need to be around to look after him). I also have some complex medical history if my own including several DVT and PE (pulmonary embolism) I very nearly died after my last child just 14 months ago. all linked to pregnancy.

I know I need to do this to ensure that I am around for my ds and other children although there is a chance I would be fine, but I just feel so conflicted and guilty, I am definitely pro choice and if asked my opinion on my situation for a friend I think I would advise they go through with it but I just don't know!

Please help me you load of VIPERS!!

What would you do?

I guess YABU keep the baby all will be fine

YANBU do what you can to ensure you are around to look after your current children particularly DS

OP posts:
WhoAmIWhoAreYou · 12/09/2020 09:22

You can't ever be 100% that you'll be around anyway. Anything can happen, get run over by a bus, car crash. Anything! Sorry, that's so morbid. Its just reality. You cant base it on whether "you'll be around" but you can say, "my child with complex needs, needs more attention, so I can't have another baby ad I won't be in a position to give that child what he/she needs"

If that was the case, YANBU.

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