to think if I've never had a relationship by 30, I never will?

[ChandlersCardiSweaters]

I just don't seem to click with men. I've never had any approaches IRL and I absolutely despise OLD. I've tried Tinder and Bumble, downloaded Hinge but there were very few local users.

I don't seem to fit in any groups. I'm not sporty, don't enjoy bounding up Munros, I'm not hipster, I'm not a geek.

I am lonely and desperate for companionship and affection.

I'm a firm believer in what you put out in life is what you get back ie positive thinking/vibes. You sound lacking in self confidence which probably comes across when meeting ppl. You're still young so don't give up.

Can you try eharmony or match.com? Something more relationship focussed.

I’ve been to bumble, happn, and tinder weddings- it does work if you give it time.

Our old next door neighbour met her DH at 34, then had DC at 39- it can and does happen. You have my sympathy, but try not to lose heart.

I was 29 before I had my first relationship. Now nearly a decade down the line we’re married, with kids, a house etc.
We met online dating, I’d been on the sites a while but only went on about half a dozen dates over that time, so for me it wasn’t about putting lots of hours into it. I also reached a point where I didn’t think it’d happen to me, so I made a conscious effort to become comfortable just being me. If I wanted to travel somewhere, try out a restaurant, see a show etc I just did it alone and I really feel that took the ‘ I’m nearly 30 and single’ pressure off me. (Appreciate this was all pre Covid though).

Back in the olden days people met through mutual friends and hobbies. You say you’ve tried park run, but are there other things that interest you or that you’re passionate about? Ideally things with a sizeable group of people to meet. I know it’s harder nowerdays but it’s also easier to join groups online. Maybe environmental causes, political, languages or spirituality? There’s an organisation called GoodGym if running is your thing.

Also have you considered special interest holidays aimed at singles? You can get to know people while planting trees or touring ruins, and it takes the pressure off as you’re not dating.

I may be old fashioned but I reckon it’s easier to find a lasting relationship by meeting 10 people who you share a passion with, rather than a hundred on online dating.