To hate pointless phonecalls.. do you?

[Lenoa]

I'm an introvert by nature.

Nothing bores me more than somebody calling me for the sake of calling, unless of course I haven't spoken to them in a long time or they have something to actually tell me.

I have one family member who rings several of us 2-3 times a day just to chat, the calls have no point to them so she fills the silence with mundane questions such as "what are you having for dinner" or "what are you watching on tv"

I've stopped answering.

I'm a loving friend/family member in general.

AIBU to hate pointless phonecalls, and do you?

I'm the same. I only have one friend I tolerate it from as she is so lovely and we've fallen into a comfortable routine and I know what to expect. she also is interested in me too rather than just wanting to talk about herself. I don't have phone conversations with anyone else.

I shudder at my phone 'ringing' so much that it's permanently on silent and DND.

Yep. I’ll watch it ring out then text to say I missed their call 😂

My DM calls me at lest half a dozen times a day. I wfh as standard and it drives me potty having to break off and answer only to find she just wants to tell me she had ham for lunch or reminding me to put my bin out. I love her to bits but it really winds me up 😂

I have 2 friends who love phoning me and keep me on the phone for well over an hour at a time...i cant bear it...ive also stopped answering their calls...i get off the phone feeling drained and exhausted and its all stuff ive heard a million times before.
I love meeting up with them in person but cant stand the calls.

God that’s me. DH is the opposite.

(DH) bla bla bla bla bla
(Me) Uhuh, so then I had a cup of tea and watered the plants... just making dinner... Where are you?
Coming home - I’m just at the end of the road...
For god sake, why are you calling - I will literally see you in 2 minutes!!!!!
Well if you feel like that then...

Almost as annoying as being stuck on a bus with foghorn giving a blow by blow account of what they had for breakfast, how’s the cat, and which shoes they are wearing - then ‘well, heres my stop, see you at home...’

The only calls that come through to my phone are from my husband, children, and parents. That's it. Everyone else is set to go directly to voicemail. I hate talking on the phone. My mother, on the other hand, was born with a phone to her ear. It's unbelievable how much she talks on the phone.

Oh no, I'm that family member

I ring my DM at least once a day for a chit chat, same with DGM. Mainly because I miss them, I never have anything important to say. I don't ring anybody else though and hate speaking to anyone but those two on the phone

I had a work friend years ago that would phone at least once a week, she would be on the phone for two hours min!!
We did get on well and have a right laugh at times but bloody hell!!
We lost touch after i left that work place but i bumped into her recently and she said on parting, give me a phone and we’l catchup... not a chance!! Two hours of saying uhhu, yep, yes, oh i know, etc etc!!!

My sister does this, maybe a little bit too much. I don't mind it occasionally, but daily is too much. More than that is definitely too much.

I chat to my dad, my best friend and my sister though, and really enjoy our chats. I just wouldn't do it daily.

Some people do this by text. It's so bloody pointless

I don't mind speaking to family or close friends on the phone, although I prefer text - but 2/3 times a day!??? No, just no.

I hate phone calls. I just don't answer. Unless it's very unusual ie from a brother who never rings.

I text that's all. My friends know this.

Almost as annoying as being stuck on a bus with foghorn giving a blow by blow account of what they had for breakfast, how’s the cat, and which shoes they are wearing - then ‘well, heres my stop, see you at home.

I have a 'friend' who does this face to face. ( I say 'friend' because shes not someone I would choose to see but my very good friend always invites her along to things.) she rambles on and on about boring shite like how her different rats interact with each other and why shes wearing the white shoes now because theyre not made of leather and why thats really important although she doesnt know what they are made of but also her friend also got a pair the same but they fell apart and why do I think that is? fucked if I know honey- ask the manufacturer?

Any call that begins with a discussion of why you took so long to answer/why you didn’t answer first time, ugh, just get on with it ffs

People are very polarised on this: its all or nothing. Half of my friends love this and the other half hate them. I have a couple of really good friends who can yatter on for hours about the state of the world. Much as I love them it eats into time so much and I find it draining.

At the other extreme I have friends who loathe it to the extent that they never pick up the phone at all and just respond by text and this drives me bonkers. I don't think I've ever had a single phone conversation with my boyfriend other than totally functional discussions about dinner etc. I can hear the panic rising in his voice when he is asked anything not goal-oriented and I want to shake him. It's not going to kill you to make two minutes worth of chit chat.

I hate pointless calls .

As you can tell by my username I have someone who calls everyday to talk at me not to me !

They ring to ask me stupid questions about something they have in front of them i.e. do I have to defrost this item before cooking ? You have it in front of you look at the packaging !!!!

Or to tell me the shopping I arranged delivery of has arrived and what use by dates are on the items - I do not care

If I have been out somewhere and they have called - I get the third degree, I am in my fifties with my own family I am not going to sit in in case they ring with their important news.

It is just endless and I dread the phone ringing - rant over !

It's refreshing to see I'm not alone, I was expecting to be told I'm a full on miserable git

For me, I think my strong dislike for phonecalls stems from dealing with a couple of people in particular who do exactly what I wrote in my OP, and that has spilled into a general dislike now.

I had a friend who would call me up and want to linger on the phone for over an hour just bitching (not a friend anymore)

There's another friend who doesn't let you off the phone and wants to have long chats about nothing to keep himself occupied when he's out walking in the country.

The family member in my OP is possibly the worst one for it. I'm not very well at the moment and have been resting up at home, that hasn't deterred her.

I find with some people they can be very selfish about the demands they make of others time.

I suppose it's easy in theory to just hang up but that brings more headache when you end up looking rude/mean.

I've lost a friend over this during the pandemic. She wanted to chat, but the chat was all what have we done, what are we going to do, nothing interesting. I started to feel like I was chatting for her sake and began backing away. I felt so hounded to produce more chat that I finally just kept my silence, not answering messages. It's sad, but I really felt backed in to a corner. Like you said OP, I thought it was selfish of her and it felt very demanding. As an introvert I wasn't suffering as much, but when I did finally get to feeling a little lonely it wasn't inane time-filling chat that made me feel better.

God, I hear you! I've a friend like this, she can happily natter along for an hour or more at a time. I've been guilty of occasionally blocking her number for a day or two, just so she'll leave me in peace.

Lol my dad's like this! It's actually becoming a problem now. I dread calls to/from him. He can talk for eternity and it's very hard to find a moment to hang up! Every call is at least an hour long, usually hour and a half. So I end up procrastinating for longer and longer between calls. And then I feel guilty. Can't win!! It got worse over the first month of lockdown, he was calling every week and still managed to go on and on and on 😂

I ignore the phone to most people, then text them back.
DP is terrible for phoning when he is in the car and "bored". He could be 5 mins away from him and want to sit and talk about pointless shit. While I'm trying to work, or tidy up and make dinner. I have been known to hang up on him.

Well, I won't precisely say 'yabu' because it's up to you what you like or don't like. But I enjoy talking on the phone, especially at times like these when I can't see people in person so much.