To always want more......

[StillAlive76]

We have just moved to a lovely 4 bed detached house after 15 years of living in a (nice) 3 bed semi with one bathroom. I pushed hard for years for the move due to two girls needing more space/bigger rooms/more bathrooms/a garage and am delighted and happy and love my new home.
But I have found myself looking at houses again on RightMove etc (I set up email alerts when we were looking for a house) and I keep looking at bigger and better houses! What the hell is wrong with me, and why can't I just be happy and grateful that I got what I always wanted?
I AM grateful but keep looking at FIVE bedroomed house, or ones with even bigger kitchens / double garages etc. The house felt massive when we first moved into it but now it doesn't. Am I never going to be satisfied?
I feel like a bad person.
I know people say comparison is the thief of joy, it's probably true!

What else have you got going on in your life? What gives you purpose and direction?

Sounds like this is lacking so you are fixating on your house instead.

I used to be like this somewhat. In my case it stemmed from childhood. We weren't in complete poverty but it was a very working class upbringing and I felt it at the time. I started fantasizing about what life would be like when I grew up and became a complete idealistic dreamer.

Actual adult live never measured up to that fantasy (obviously!) so I was always looking to the next thing, the BETTER thing and was never content with my lot even though I'm in a relatively fortunate position financially.

It was extremely hard to break the habit of a lifetime but I've managed it by ending the emphasis on materialism and pursuing a career that I really, truly love that gives my life more purpose. I also had some tough times with relationships and family deaths so that really brought it home to me that the people you love are all that really matter.

Oh and it REALLY helps if you don't live in a place where there's all that competition and keeping up with the Jones's. I live rurally and no one gives a shit about that here. Having lived in London and other major cities it's so easy to get sucked up in that nonsense when you're surrounded by it.