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Mixed sex group hanging out in a bedroom: door open or closed?

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miimblemomble · 11/09/2020 13:30

DS is 13. We live close to his school and (not in the UK) he and his friends are allowed out of school over lunch and if they have a free period after. Today, he has a 3 hour gap and is currently here with two friends, one boy one girl. Post lunch, they are watching Netflix / gaming in his bedroom. They’ve closed the door and shut the curtains but I can hear them larking about.

Should I be telling him to leave the door open a bit? Just to keep an eye on them? What’s the norm?

He’s my first teen, and I grew up in the arse end of nowhere and rarely had visitors, never mind boys!!

YABU: leave them to it, too young to worry about this!

YANBU: keep the door open, you need to keep an eye on them.

And if IABU at what age does this become an issue?

OP posts:
CircleofWillis · 11/09/2020 19:02

Absolutely open!

oreshina · 11/09/2020 19:27

Open...you are being a responsible parent. Can't believe people on here are shaming you for that.

LakieLady · 11/09/2020 19:46

Closed. Teenagers make a bloody racket.

And it's when they're not making a racket that you need to be suspicious imo.

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