I haven’t seen my MIL since April and my DH has only see his mum maybe twice since lockdown lifted. She hasn’t phoned us and we haven’t phoned her. Since the country went into lockdown, my 3 kids have had birthdays, she hasn’t contacted them at all but she did post (She actually did this herself) cards through the door for them.
I took a massive step back from my in laws a couple of years ago. My mum and dad died within a couple of months of each other and none of my In laws acknowledge the deaths or went to the funerals. All my in-laws (MIL and DH’s siblings) knew my mum and dad very well. At their funerals my DH said he was so embarrassed as people were asking where his mum and siblings were. After my mums funeral DH would go and see his mum once a week, I just went down every now and again.
When the country went into lockdown I always asked if she needed anything from the shops and would get her some groceries if she needed then. Of course when her daughter, DH’s sister Started to go out a bit more, I was no longer required as she just asked her to get her shopping, fair enough.
I’ve realised my life (don’t know about DH’s) is a lot more clam and settled not seeing them and I just can’t be arsed with them anymore. I’ve always bent over backwards for them and I get nothing in return. I think what’s really bugging me is my SIL’s MIL died and my MIL went to her funeral and she didn’t know her very well. Apparently she went to support her daughter in law and her grandchildren. Obviously my children and I weren’t good enough for her support.
DH is having to go away for work and will be away for a couple of months and during that time, MIL will have a birthday and I really don’t want to go see her.
Am I just been a petty cow or should I just suck it up and go see her?