Am I too blasé?

[LouiseBelchersBunnyEars]

My DS has just started secondary school, and within a week has already had a detention for uniform infraction (having his shirt untucked)
My DM seems to think I’m raising an absolute delinquent, on the road to hell because I’m not giving him a punishment for it at home.
My DH actually laughed when he found out, but it was only because DS is soo scruffy, and both me and DH were warning him, when you get to senior school you won’t be able to walk around like that, you’ll get in trouble. In fact that morning DH had reminded him not to look scruffy make sure he’s all tucked in, laces done etc.
So he laughed like ‘well, of course he got detention, I’ve been warning him’ not because he thought it was actually funny.
I don’t think DS is doing it intentionally, he said he untucked it because he was hot, wasn’t really thinking about it.

My thinking is that ‘Well. Maybe now you’ll remember to have it tucked it’.
My DM thinks I should be confiscating his electronic or something, so he takes it seriously.

I’m not going to do that, I think the detention on and of itself is enough.

Apparently I’m ‘too blasé’.

Is an additional punishment something you’d advocate for? I mean, if it was something serious I might think about it, but to be honest I think it’s pretty minor, and it’s only his first week!

@Merryoldgoat

Christ - I truly hope not all schools are this stupid.

And YANBU at all.

I doubt it was the first time he was told. Not sure why you think it is stupid? It is a dress code, which should be respected. Pupils are expected to wear their clothes properly, not just chuck them on any old way

I don't know where you live but many market towns have retained their old 'stocks' perhaps you could take him to one of these and put him in for the day?

I would draw the line at letting people throw rotten tomatoes etc. at him, unless of course he fails to do up his tie up properly.

Hope this helps.

I can't see that it's really her business anyway OP, she is being hyperbolic to the point of comedy by the sounds of it. You're fine, a detention is (more than) adequate and hopefully will do as it's intended to do and prompt him to remember to keep it tucked in or have to sit through another.

@WhoWouldHaveThoughtThat

I don't know where you live but many market towns have retained their old 'stocks' perhaps you could take him to one of these and put him in for the day?

I would draw the line at letting people throw rotten tomatoes etc. at him, unless of course he fails to do up his tie up properly.

Hope this helps.

😂😂 I know!! Well, he’s just finished, and rang me to tell me he got not one, but TWO merits today, one for a good attitude and one for being helpful. I’m definitely going to treat him for that, and DM can stick that in her pipe and smoke it