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Is there any way I can stop myself deteriorating?

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Itstruetoday · 10/09/2020 21:47

I cant stop binge eating,all day I dont eat much as I'm not hungry then come 5pm I eat until I'm sick all the way till midnight sometimes .junk, healthy food ,fruit,everything gets shoveled in.i do it because I have such poor body image.ive got terrible cellulite on my legs and stomach and as the years have gone on it's got so bad, I mean it's a rippling deep dimpling effect all over and its very unsightly.this depresses me immensely, especially as I had gotten to a weight I was happy at but still the cellulite persisted with no change.so now I've given up on myself and slowly that weight is creeping back up.why is my body so against me?
Before anyone says I should be grateful for all it's done for me and I'm lucky etc etc I dont feel this way at all.
Has anyone had any success with any diet or procedures or products which have lessened their cellulite?
Please be kind,I dont need a battering or unkind comments.trust me.

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missrks · 10/09/2020 21:52

Awhhh love. You've got yourself into a bit of a cycle. The only thing I can recommend is to eat proper breakfast, lunch and dinner. I'm terrible for doing this too. Set your calories for the day and split it up into either 3 meals of 4 or 5 small plates. Make sure your blood sugar is level throughout the day and it will help with the binge eating at night.

Try not settle down in front of the tv either, go out for a walk if you can or focus on another hobby until you find yourself able to break the cycle. Loads of water and cups of peppermint tea too!

Don't hate yourself because of your cellulite. We all have it. Maybe yours is quite bad, but start eating well and getting yourself in a good place and it won't seem like such a struggle. Body brushing and a good moisturiser will help you feel better

xxx

GinisLife · 10/09/2020 21:54

Give up coffee as well.

nanbread · 10/09/2020 21:57

I'm sorry you're so unhappy with yourself.

Do you exercise? The only thing that seems to improve my cellulite is exercise like squats, lunges etc. Loads of them 5 times a week and drinking loads of water, eating lower carb / sugar.

But actually I think you'd be better off trying to love yourself cellulite and all. You'd naturally want to take care of yourself better if you loved yourself. Maybe look into some body positivity stuff.

Itstruetoday · 10/09/2020 22:01

@missrks thank you.i know it's wrong and I detest myself eating like a greedy animal but I just cant seem to stop when started.ive got a sen child and dont get out much due to their needs.my life is full of stress I cant manage or change

Body brushing is rubbish,I've brushed my skin raw over the years

My cellulite is like mischa Barton's was when pictured years ago,really deep and obvious in every light

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Itstruetoday · 10/09/2020 22:02

@GinisLife is coffee bad for it?

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NooneElseIsSingingMySong · 10/09/2020 22:12

Have you read Brain over binge by Kathryn Hansen? She’s a recovered bulimic who wanted to stop her binge/purge cycle. She did a lot of research then wrote a book and has now started a podcast. I can’t claim it was an overnight change for me but it really helped me to see the patterns in my binge/purge behaviours and my binges and body hating have slowly started to improve. I highly recommend checking it out.

Doitintheshower · 10/09/2020 22:36

Hello lovely,

I’m sorry you are having such a tough time X

Have you considered talking to someone about how you feel? A qualified person? Drinking less coffee, eating healthily and exercising could help but it sounds like this runs much deeper than lifestyle changes. A good counsellor will ask you questions which can really help you work things out, order your thinking, break harmful cycles. They can also help you with coping strategies to manage stress. I understand it can be expensive but some counsellors offer sessions on a pay what you can afford basis.

They can help you recognise that you deserve to feel good. From your post it doesn’t sound like you feel that way right now

Sending you a big hug x

Itstruetoday · 10/09/2020 23:06

@Doitintheshower thank you for such a kindly written post.i recognise I need help with my behaviours,theres so many parts of my life which have impacted me negatively,however I've always been a get on with it type, a coper,but now the mask is slipping, I'm deeply sad in my life and to me my body reflects my unhappiness with its ugliness.food releases a momentary happiness which turns into self loathing.
Why are we such complicated enemies of ourselves?

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Itstruetoday · 10/09/2020 23:08

@NooneElseIsSingingMySong thank you will check this out.everyday I start with good thoughts and as the day progresses I find myself getting unhappier and planning what to eat
Then I eat everything and feel or be sick.

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CSIblonde · 10/09/2020 23:09

Totally get the binge eating. I've stopped it by forcing myself to go back to regular meals . Then come the evening I'm really not hungry. If I want a snack bananas are very filling. Or cereal with fruits/seed added ( no sugar). If I'm depressed I watch a decor hacks You Tube video or go for a walk to stop the downward spiral: which really helps. I also started a 15min beginners fitness every day with the Lucy Wyndham woman on You Tube & it's really worked. For cellulite I found E45 wash really improved my cellulite & skin overall. Just doing something, anything rather than sitting , bingeing has done so much to help. It was an awful vicious circle. I used to sneer at "Do the opposite of what your depression tells you ", but it works!

12309845653ghydrvj · 10/09/2020 23:33

OP sending you love—I’ve had massive issues with binge eating too, I know how awful it is when you get deep in the cycle.

Don’t bother about the cellulite for now, focus on being positive and dealing with the binge eating—the cellulite will do away with itself then!

I managed to break my binge eating cycle maybe 2 or 3 months ago, and I did it by starting working with a personal trainer. I do my fitness pal with them, and weirdly doing exercise helps me a lot psychologically: basically when I’m accountable to someone, and when I know how much work it is to burn off, that changes my mindset—plus when I have bad moments of hating my body, instead of spiralling I think “but I’m doing something to change that!” And feel less negative! Can’t tell you how much my mindset around food has changed—I still need to be careful about not having anything bingabke in the house, and basically buy food for each meal—be realistic about what you can achieve (like I used to bulk cook food, then eat like 6 portions and sometimes get sick—now I will literally only cook what I want myself to eat, and having nothing else easy to eat around!).

Also: be less tough on yourself. Honestly this is the biggest thing—when you’re overly tough on yourself, you build up pressure and anxiety around food, and it’s only natural to relieve this with a binge or purge. You need to break the anxiety to break the cycle.

12309845653ghydrvj · 10/09/2020 23:34

Also when I really don’t trust myself with food (like when I’m in a bad moment) I will go to the shops that day and buy a healthy ready meal for my meal, so no chance to binge as I don’t have anything to binge on!

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