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lili12300 · 09/09/2020 20:54

Posted on here for traffic (sorry!)
I work in a professional environment (nursing), and have always struggled with time management etc. I sometimes stay hours after my shift to complete everything, when this shouldn't take nearly as long. I can forget things easily, and need to write things down..even then, I will often need to check my notes when someone asks a question as I have forgotten. it can be the same in meetings.
I can get overwhelmed if there is a lot going on that I need to keep on top of..I generally keep on top of my work, but usually with sacrifice to my own time..I dont like to leave until I have done everything, but still find myself contacting the ward halfway home, with information I've forgotten
I am unable to do computer tasks easily of thete are distractions, as once my focus goes, it takes a bit of time to get back on track
I dont feel I am articulate in my job or communicate clearly.
I did well at uni (diploma) but would spent far too long doing assignments, that I couldn't remember the details of shortly after.
at home, I do silly things like not put the kids on things properly etc (always been this way) even things like cleaning takes longer than it should, and find I am not very thorough.
I often lose things like my keys, phone etc, and often genuinely have no memory of where I have put them.
I am worried about going to occupational health, as this would be then on my record..though it might be better than this
Any advice would be so much appreciated

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lili12300 · 09/09/2020 20:55

*lids on things :)

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Babyroobs · 09/09/2020 20:57

I don't think you are alone, I have worked with numerous Nurses like this over the years. Sorry I know that's not very helpful. Could you speak to your GP ?

CarrieFour · 09/09/2020 20:58

You sound a bit like me. X

I have ADHD.

Have a google of "ADHD in women" and see if it fits. X

june2007 · 09/09/2020 21:00

Well first of all you are a nurse right? So you are obviously a bright person, you may have some dyspraxia or processing disorder. I could tick of most of what you said, I have all the dys in varying ways.

lili12300 · 09/09/2020 21:01

thank you both :) I was wondering about adhd..I feel tired quite a lot of the time, and not that much energy (though dont seem to stop at work!) I find work goes really quickly and there is not enough hours in the day. I dont understand how some people seem so calm, spend time talking to others, relaxing with patients, and manage to get everything done with a good standard! that would be a dream!

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lili12300 · 09/09/2020 21:04

thankyou..people have actually said (in jest, I hope!) 'how did you get to where you are in life?!' i do come across as a bit ditzy, say sorry far too much too!
I can watch the news or read an article and I couldn't repeat the info, so really dont think I am bright, just lucky I think

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pastabest · 09/09/2020 21:25

If you don't want to speak to occupational health just yet you can pay for a private assessment which will look at all sorts of things like working memory, processing speeds, problem solving etc and will make recommendations for any things that might help.

I've worked with numerous professional students with various additional needs such as requiring coloured overlays on computer screens and notepads, or speech software for the computer, or adjusting the text size etc to help. There might be something really simple that could help.

lili12300 · 10/09/2020 09:44

thank you for your advice:) I have had a look online, but cant see anything which stands out (maybe I'm putting the wrong info in the search engine!)
is there a specific company I would need to look for? i can't get a GP appt today to discuss it with him

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SparklingLime · 11/09/2020 19:32

You might find this thread helpful, @lili12300:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4009713-AIBU-to-wish-more-people-know-that-ADHD-persists-into-adulthood

ThePurpleMoose · 11/09/2020 19:48

My immediate thought having read your OP was also ADHD. ADDitude Magazine has a lot of interesting articles that might be of help, and also this self-test specifically for females (obviously not a diagnosis but might give you a better idea of what's going on for you) www.additudemag.com/self-test-adhd-symptoms-women-girls/

lili12300 · 17/09/2020 14:42

Thank you for your replies, I will have a look at those :)

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Heyha · 17/09/2020 14:48

I read this and immediately thought female ADHD too, obviously you can't generalise but it does present very different to how a lot of people think of ADHD (which is closer to how boys tend to present). You must be exhausted working so hard to keep on top of things OP so I hope you get some answers that help you get some time to relax Flowers

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