Do I stay or do I go?

10 replies

Cookiemonster92 · 09/09/2020 11:42

So I’m currently in a 10 year relationship, which has had many ups and downs. My partner has cheated several times, and we have worked through, broken up, got back together, you name it. I’m not perfect but have never done anything to cause a relationship breakdown in such a way. We currently have a 1 year old baby, and lockdown has been tough, the relationship broke down, I worked to fix it and partner seemed to reluctantly “try” to work on things, but things have slipped back to what they were.

Do I stay or do I go? I’m not happy with how things are, I assumed things would get better after lockdown eased, but they haven’t. Partner is still negative, snappy, argumentative, rude and never apologises, never shows any interest in spending time together or doing anything just us... I want to work on things for a happy family, but should I just stop trying when my partner isn’t interested?

So here is it
YABU to stay, it won’t change
YANBU to stay, it could be worked on

OP posts:

Angelina82 · 09/09/2020 11:45

You have put up with enough OP. For your own sake and that of your child’s get out now.

ChanceChanceChance · 09/09/2020 11:50

I think you can do a lot better, and deserve a lot better

AlwaysCheddar · 09/09/2020 11:52

No brained, go. Stop wasting your life with him.

Coriandersucks · 09/09/2020 11:54

It shouldn’t be this hard work

FippertyGibbett · 09/09/2020 11:56

You need to consider if this is the way you want to spend the next 5, 10, 20, 30 years.
If not, get out now while you’re young so you don’t have regrets that you wasted your life.

D4rwin · 09/09/2020 11:57

They've shown you more than once where their commitment lies and it's solely with them.

BewilderedDoughnut · 09/09/2020 12:21

He's a serial cheat and you still had a baby with him and plodded on?

Why? That's madness!

Leave, like yesterday!!

HandfulofDust · 09/09/2020 12:30

If it was just lockdown and a new baby putting the relationship under strain that would be one thing but it sounds like it's always been on dodgy footing. I would cut your losses and leave.

Original poster

Cookiemonster92 · 09/09/2020 13:15

Thank you everyone, I think you’re right... now how do I go about getting all my ducks in a row??

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FippertyGibbett · 09/09/2020 13:32

Find a family solicitor, you can usually get the first 30 mins free.
I assume you’re not married so can’t help any further, the solicitor will.

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