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AIBU?

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... to say my friend who works in Bolton can't stay in our lounge?

43 replies

KitchenIslandKim · 09/09/2020 11:21

Hello,

My friend is working in a customer-facing role in Bolton, an area which, in case you're unaware, has staggeringly high Covid infection rates. She needs a place to stay and has asked if she can sleep on the sofa in our lounge. Ordinarily I would let her stay for a night or two, but I am afraid about her infecting me and my DS + DD. DH is away on business, so this decision is entirely mine to make. My friend seems offended at my reluctance to say yes, saying she has 'no intention' of catching coronavirus herself, but I wonder whether this is too big a risk to take? DD1, DD2, DD3, DS1 and DS2 have all just returned to school and I would hate for them to get infected and for all of their bubbles to have to go home (mortifying at the school gate!). My friend has pointed out that we were quite happy to let my MIL stay on our sofa last weekend, and has implied that I am being precious about her sullying our sofa (brand new, velvet, an investment). I am not bothered about this - we have plenty of sleeping bags, but my main concern is the possibility of infection. Also, our en-suite is currently undergoing a renovation, so we only have two working bathrooms and I do worry we'll get under each other's feet in the morning. But yes, it's mainly the infection risk that is bothering me. AIBU?

OP posts:
nosswith · 09/09/2020 12:23

YANBU. I am sure your friend is making efforts to avoid the virus but I am sure Matt Hancock and Chris Whitty were before they caught it too.

SmellsLikeFeet · 09/09/2020 12:23

She is only thinking about herself, stick to your guns.

Comefromaway · 09/09/2020 12:24

@Cocomarine

“We only have 2 working bathrooms”

The horror 😱

And yes, I clocked that you have 5 kids, 6 in the house. I grew up in a 7, with a bathroom with no shower and a loo, and very happily for us a second loo too. It was never a problem. Not in a 4 Yorkshiremen way, just - 2 working bathrooms really is plenty.

So no on infection risk if you like - but don’t tell it’s because you “only” have 2 bathrooms 🤣

You are supposed, if at all possible to allocate any guests outside your own household their own bathroom to use. So that would totally put one bathroom out of action for the rest of the house whilst the friend stayed and create extra cleaning for the OP.

I've got workmen in at the moment and my downstairs loo is allocated to them, which means I have to disinfect it every day and change towels daily before the rest of the family can use it.

Thisismytimetoshine · 09/09/2020 12:26

How long is she staying for? She'll be getting a hotel allowance, surely?
Had to laugh at your "investment" sofa, though 😂

KeepingPlain · 09/09/2020 12:29

Aw that's sweet that she thinks she can just refuse to catch a virus. No intention of getting... No one does go out to deliberately get it (well some probably have but they are nuts).

Keep saying no. There are hotels for a reason.

KatherineJaneway · 09/09/2020 12:30

@AriesTheRam

Why does she need a place to stay? Id risk it if DV situation or similar but not if she in the area and can't be arsed to book a hotel
This is what I'd need to know before I could vote.
DimidDavilby · 09/09/2020 12:32

Absolutely dying at your investment sofa Grin

TweeterandtheMonkeyman · 09/09/2020 12:33

I think I need to know why she wants to stay first - is it an emergency? Why can’t she book a hotel?

Bluntness100 · 09/09/2020 12:36

I’m also curious about the investment sofa. This means you feel it will escalate in value. Because that’s what an investment is.

How do you see that playing out then?

aToadOnTheWhole · 09/09/2020 12:44

If you're local to her then unless you're in Stockport or Wigan then she's not allowed over the threshold anyway.

GabsAlot · 09/09/2020 12:45

no you dont have to have anyone to stay-shes working in a high risk area-noone intentionally catches it so i dont know what her point is

i thought the 6 maximum rule starts officially next monday

ButteryPuffin · 09/09/2020 12:48

No, too risky and it's totally unfair for her to pressure you.
Boris didn't intend to catch it either! Or the nearly 60,000 people now dead!

Hoppinggreen · 09/09/2020 12:54

Quite aside from anything else she’s not actually allowed to

Lifeisforalimitedperiodonly · 09/09/2020 12:59

It would be a no from me.

Friendsoftheearth · 09/09/2020 13:00

I choose YABU just based on the fact you are even considering this op! No way - not at the moment.

quiteathome · 09/09/2020 13:01

She is not allowed.

Investment sofa with 5 kids? I only have two and they trash everything. I amnot having anything nice until they leave home...

Billben · 09/09/2020 13:17

saying she has 'no intention' of catching coronavirus herself,

😂Do you often mix with people this dumb?

KatherineJaneway · 10/09/2020 06:22

Op?

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