Husband still going to large gathering

[HallucinatingCat]

My husband is planning to go away for a weekend next week. He would be going to m area of the country with high coronavirus cases, and would be in a gathering of 30-40 people.

The reason is for a hobby, and he argues it is allowed because it's an 'organised sport' (currently listed in government exemptions). The hobby is quite niche and it's organised by enthusiasts, it isn't a regional or local tournament or anything like that. I don't know if it really counts as an organised sport tbh, but in any case, they wouldn't just be doing the activity, they would also be standing around chatting in large groups

I have said I don't want him to go as I feel it is a risk, especially to go to this area which is spiking. He says he doesn't care what I think and he is going whatever happens. Am I being over cautious here? Or is he unreasonable?

He is definitely being unreasonable. People with attitudes like his are making me feel like tearing my hair out. Yes, it sucks having to cancel plans. We are all wishing life could go back to normal. But we need to put our selfish wishes aside.

An organised sport is an exemption but only with adherence to strict measures. Are they following these?

Anyway YANBU because it sounds very risky even if legal.

What would happen if he caught it? Are either of you or any close family members vulnerable? If he had to isolate would he have a drop in income etc?

YANBU. Gatherings of 30-40 people is exactly how this thing seems to be spreading. Add to that they're going to an area with a high number of cases. It's not really fair on the people in that area.

Do you have children?

Are they going to be indoors or outdoors? Outdoors would not be as risky as indoors

We are going to an event next week, the first thing since March and no I'm not cancelling. It's possible to go places and socially distance which is what they legally must do whilst socialising anyway

Will the event still be happening @movingonup20

This is against current advise anyway wasn't it? Just now there is a penalty if caught. If you were ok with it before what has changed now?

Movingonup I would doubt your event will be going ahead as tbe guidelines are changing from Monday.

“He says he doesn't care what I think and he is going whatever happens”

Is he always like this, not caring what you think? Charming. Especially over something as important as this which could potentially harm you if he gets the virus.

If I were you I would say enjoy yourself but you are not coming back to the house for 2 weeks so stay away when he gets back. He is being unreasonable and irresponsible IMO.