Bit of background.
My daughter is 9 months, we both recently started at a new nursery, I work there, she's never really been left before.
I'm really, really unhappy with some of the care she has been given, from the moment we did the settling in visits, but as it's a new job for me, I felt I needed to push and give it a try, but somethings are just sending alarm bells ringing in my head and I'm seriously considering quitting and pulling us out and we are only on day 3.
She is EBF, which is obviously my choice. We bedshare due to this, she's fed to sleep for naps but does well being rocked after her milk.
She's left in dirty clothes after her lunch, one day she still had food from 3hrs previous all over her hands and face, even after 4 hours she had food all over her bottoms and her tops, despite me leaving plenty of spare clothes for her, no water was given the first few days out of her cup and no one let me know she wasn't drinking her milk properly and mixed messages are being given to me in regards to this.
I'm having to pretty much go to a point I'm seriously uncomfortable to go and express milk, then I'm given funny looks for giving the expressed milk to them from other members of staff, having to go in the staff room anticipating or making other people not be able to sit and have their lunch because there's no other room for me to pump in which makes me feel really, really awkward.
But, my main concern is the sleeping arrangements. We bed share so I know the safe sleep arrangements, as do they as they have sleep mats and cots for the older children and other babies.
The past days she's been laid on a sort of nursing, sit me up pillow, semi upright with a blanket wrapped around her, in a different room to the staff.
I know, that babies should be on a flat surface without blankets unless in a cot and then, it should be tucked in and their feet to the bottom of the cot.
This is really concerning me as I feel that at any minute, if she isnt in the same room she could smother her self with the blanket or potentially have another issue with the position she is in, I'm unsure why they have laid her on this rather than a sleep mat, but since it is my first week, I'm nervous (which I know I should not be) about speaking up about it in fear of being the new girl who is causing problems.
No other child in the whole setting is propped up on a pillow, they either are laid in a cot which she doesn't like, but, has been laid into before there, so I get that she wakes and isn't happy but the others are either in a cot or put onto a sleep mat, which is flat like they should be.
I have provided a sleep bag for her so no blankets are needed, yet, they say she refuses to wear it and causes a fuss about it.
There's other issues I've found in my own room which I won't go into, but, overall am I being unreasonable?
Surely they know this and should be following the guidance they have in regards to safe sleeping especially as SIDS is still a risk (albeit low) until 1.
Overall I need the money since my maternity stopped, but, I just don't really know what to do.
With these concerns and questions, would you stay or continue to put your child into this setting?
Am I thinking too much into this and being totally petty?