AIBU am I crazy

[Buzlightyear1]

So seriously need some outsiders . I’ve asked for help a few times always been helpful I have no problem being told I’m wrong.

So ex is a emotional abusive drug taker who I had to call the police on last year as he was injecting herione in front of our 2 year old at the time and myself and wouldn’t leave. The social were called they were amazing.

I have health issues so during this recent Covid I have been careful, I do take my little one to the park. We’ve had holidays and days out with my mums help.

Ex sees our son with me supervised but soon to change person who supervises as he’s getting nasty demanding alone time. I won’t give him this he’s dangerous and social have told me not to.

He’s now having a nasty streak shouting whilst I take our son to visit. All about alone time , then oh he should play with other kids. I mean I’m doing my best he does play with other kids he’s not in school but gets to meet other kids.

Any way I had enough yesterday so got in touch with social worker who said she will forward him the document , this states he’s not allowed unsupervised visits. She also told me to document with gp and police. I’ve done all this and will follow advise. Now I feel so guilty for doing this. I no it sounds stupid but he’s doing his normal like nothing happens.

The thing is As well as feeling guilty I’m also scared of his reaction when he finds out I’ve reported him. He’s not nice he mugged a lady beat up a man. Locked me nd my son in a car whilst doing drugs and drove like a nutter.

Please am I nasty for reporting him ? Did I do the right thing ?

Of course you didn't he right thing and I would not allow him to see my child at all, supervised or not.

*did the right thing.

Stupid phone.

Thank you, I think that’s what I need to do stop contact. He had me so scared for so long. I’m disabled and he convinced me he would have our son taken away .

The social services were helpful but ex still knows how to get to me. My son is what gave me the strength to get out of the situation.
He geingunly makes me feel like I’m some mad cow . Thank you

You did the right thing but I would also be scared about his reaction. However, will he know 100% for sure it's you? If there's any doubt that will help.

Not only did you do the right thing to protect your child, you are showing social care you are capable of safeguarding your child from this man and that you appropriately recognise risks and take actions to mitigate them. I used to work directly in child protection

That’s true Im think of playing it as well you were shouting and being aggressive in the town center. So anyone could have reported you. It’s a smallish town where a lot of people know us. It’s actually very embarrassing as a lot of my neighbours now have a look in there face that they no what he’s like. I’m lucky the next door are amazing and help out. I’m not the kind of person to enjoy my relationship with anyone broadcasting. He seams to get off on this. But you Are right about contact. I think the guilty feeling is dread of what’s to come as well.

I’m also very swear that it’s better now my little one is 4 January. He should never have been put through this in the first place . So this gives me strength.

Sounds like it's definitely time for someone else to supervise the visits.. Time assigned for his dc isn't an opportunity to abuse you. Keep a record of his behaviour. It isn't in your dc's best interests to witness this behaviour.. Well done for asking for help and support off ss.

Thank you . I no it might seam silly but just an outsider saying this helps. I no with my mum she wants to protect me. So it’s really good to be able to get other points of view