I know IA a bit U but does anyone else find it annoying when people comment on crying baby/toddler?

[Whyaretheredinosaursinthebath]

I know they are being friendly and making conversation but it's usually when I just want to get on and help my toddler out of the situation and would love if it wasn't drawn attention to. My toddler hates it if someone she doesn't know well tries to talk to her when she's upset and it makes things far worse, but I understand people are only trying to be kind when they speak to her.

For some reason though I find it so frustrating when they knowingly say "oh you are so tired/hungry/whatever" when the source of the distress is a very specific and mysterious but important to toddler matter, like that I cut her sandwich the wrong way just a moment ago, or misidentified which particular dinosaur she wanted to me to bring to the shop and it feels like a lot of effort to explain. (I appreciate some of the reaction is sometimes tiredness based etc but you know what I mean).

Does anyone else feel the same or am I just mean and antisocial?! We don't go round shops causing a disturbance often and she often loves being out but had to get essential medicine today and a combination of the above miscommunications resulted in tears!

Oh my god yes. YANBU. At this point I don't care if I'm being mean spirited - I really don't appreciate the intervention! I can understand that people feel moved to comment - but I think since becoming a mum I've basically wound my neck in because as you say you don't really know why that child is crying and commenting on it won't help.

Now, a sympathetic catching the eye and a smile is another thing entirely. Very happy to receive one of those. Just not parenting wisdom. Particularly not if it's related to teething.

Ah yes, I agree, a kind smile makes all the difference

My favourite actually was someone who presenter my toddler with a toy in Tesco to "help" then disappeared, of course I had to then buy the bloody toy but at least it was cheap. I should have asked if she was paying for it then but I was too busy helping my daughter off the floor 😂

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Yes ds is 6 now but it used to really piss me off!

Yes this really pisses me off! It makes my toddler DD worse when someone does this and when she was a baby I just used to find it irritating especially as I might have purposefully brought DD to a cafe when she had just had a nap and a feed so someone telling me she must be one of these things was quite irritating.
I much prefer it when people politely ignore any tantrums and I do the same when other people’s children are crying or shouting

“ For some reason though I find it so frustrating when they knowingly say "oh you are so tired/hungry/whatever"”

I have been out with my MIL when she did this to some poor mother and sobbing infant. It was something like “I recognise that hungry cry!” as if she could possibly know. I was mortified. Wish I had apologised or something but at the time I just hustled her along to give the poor woman some space to deal with whatever was going on