I feel quite sad about how things have become with my in laws as we previously used to get on really well. I felt especially close with MIL and really enjoyed her company. But the last year really has changed. Since SIL moved close by (previously opposite end of the country) I've essentially been dropped, which I know sounds childish and dramatic but it's how I feel.
I'm only contacted when wanted for something and SIL is even worse at this, she's incredibly grabby. When I meet up with them MIL constantly parents over me to my dc which really pisses me off and confuses them!! I recently had heavy involvement in MILs birthday present which took bloody ages and when sleep deprived with two young dc I'd have rather spent the time doing something else but obviously did it for her sake. Then I wasn't even invited to her birthday brunch to give said gift.
I'm feeling judged for wanting to go back to work (currently SAHM) and all of his family are suggesting work from home only so that I can do all school drop offs and pick ups to leave dh to focus on work 
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It's new territory for me because I've been so close to them for so many years and feel quite sad at how things have become.
AIBU to distance myself a little and only do pleasantries for the time being? I'm worried it will affect the dcs relationship with them, because I wouldn't want that to be affected.
DH is happy to speak to them and help any way he can, but I honestly feel it's pointless. He also says to ignore the comments re work and that's completely between us so irrelevant what they say. So doesn't fully get my frustration!