To insist legal stuff go through solicitor only?

[albustydumbledore]

Child contact. I am self repping. He has solicitor.
He told me to take him to court to change one aspect and refused to even discuss it out of court and he's very hostile. We've had a few hearings all through solicitor.

I want things to improve with contact and have offered more. I'd like to keep our communication to just talking about the child. Eg I forgot to drop this off/do they need this/ how are they ect. But he has sent a lot of txts to me asking for screenshots of things I'd mentioned in court, details of who I'd spoken to in which department ect which he obviously wants for his case/solicitor. I'd provide the info to his solicitor if asked but want to keep child focused with him or it won't stop. He's like that. I also don't want to be put under the stress of being asked for screenshots and things like that to be used in evidence against me. Wouldn't his solicitor have to ask for this or it be up to me to provide in evidence?

Do I just ignore these messages or ask for him to go through solicitor? How can I do this politely or would I be being unreasonable?

If this helps.

I self represented at the family court once. I just ran out of money for the legal stuff. I was so nervous. But I typed what I called a open letter to the judge. Handed it in on arrival, ex had to have a copy too when he arrived.

But, keeping it brief, (one page only) I listed my concerns, using bullet points.

Point 1. Blah blah. Ex is aware
Point 2. Blah blah. Ex is aware.

Worked wonders. I got everything over in a tactful way. Didn't forget anything and certainly helped my nerves. Made sure the issues concerning my kids were covered and showed how he was ignoring their welfare.

The solicitor gave it a once over the day before, but she thought it only fair to do so, as I'd cashed in my pension to pay for her🙄. Her advice to me was to respect the court. If you're not respecting your children's needs, how are you respecting anyone else? He didn't. It showed. He lost.

Good luck.

@CaffeineInfusion thanks for that. He's trying to say I'm lying about his needs and he doesn't have them even though there's a diagnosis and everybody else is aware. It's a minefield isn't it.