Silent alarm

[Dingding1988]

What do people do when one partner wants to get up earlier (by at least an hour) than the other. Any tips for not waking them!

Circumstances at the moment mean I want to be up at 530 ish to go to the gym ( currently losing weight and 3 stone out of 6 down) by getting to the gym for 6 it means I am home for 730 and back in time for breakfast and school runs.

Dh is on days off/afternoon shifts this week so doesn't want to be up at 530 understandably. He is also a terrible sleeper so can sometimes ge awake until midnight.

I have a smart watch so I set my alarm on that but apparently dh still hears this and wakes up. I never set my alarm on my phone.

I'm generally quiet once up it just seems to be the alarm thing.

For what its worth when dh works weekends (my days off!) He sets his alarm on his phone which wakes me up at 530 but I'm not allowed to complain as that's for work not fun.

sauce for the goose, sauce for the gander

He thinks he is more important than you

Up to you where you go from here

Earplugs?
Do you have a spare room?

Is it an alarm on your watch or a vibration? DP gets up earlier than me and recently got an Apple Watch. I've not been woken up since.

If he's doing the same thing to you on weekends though he should sod off with his complaints really

Tricky... you want to do your hobby, he wants to live by his work schedule.

I have a Fitbit Inspire and it just vibrates on my wrist, without any alarm sound. Wakes me up, but doesn't usually bother my husband.

(But agree with other posters that he should be as considerate of waking you up as he expects you to be)

For what its worth when dh works weekends (my days off!) He sets his alarm on his phone which wakes me up at 530 but I'm not allowed to complain as that's for work not fun.

Well it's easy then. Tell him to stfu on a morning and you'll do the same.

Job done.

Maybe you should both get up at a more reasonable time and he handles breakfast/school run while you are at the gym?

Our alarms wake each other up, but then the one staying in bed just goes back to sleep again. It doesn’t have to be a drama. When I am working late he goes to bed, and I creep in at 1 am. He usually stirs but then goes back to sleep. Same in the morning when he creeps out and I go back to sleep. Compromise is required on both sides.

Surely him getting up early for work (assuming he has to be in work very early) is different from getting up early to exercise. Surprised at the posters saying it’s the same.