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AIBU?

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3amigosmama · 07/09/2020 19:10

AIBU.. We rented inlaws place for about 10 year. When my 3rd born arrived they took a dislike to us (still don't know why) and decided to tell us to sort the place out so they could sell up, anyway time went on they came back, and with a baby and 18 month old in tow it wasn't easy until they gave us the boot, leaving me to find a mortgage on my own with 3 kids one being 6 month old. My partner the father of all 3 is still with me but supposedly unmortgagable so I've had to do it all myself. Had to return to work long before I was ready to to be considered for a mortgage as couldn't do it on maternity, didn't bond with my youngest through it all. (have now thankfully) They haven't spoken to me since I walked out with the kids back to my mums 12x12 spare room between the 5 of us, after they had a midnight hissy screaming at me for packing a box or 2 as they had asked us to find somewhere and waking them kids up upsetting them. 8 month has passed and they have asked my partner if they can see the kids before they move away again as they sold up. AIBU to think don't waste my time, just go.. and leave us alone?? they have even asked me about them, not a word, I don't want them just walking in and out of their lives as they please.. I've never once said don't ask me about them, or don't come see them, I've never stopped them upto now, it's all their doing, they chose not to see them, I think it's fear of seeing I'd actually done OK for myself, Note they have been away all the time we've been there only visiting once a every other year and only met any of them a handful of times anyway, my kids probably wouldn't even know who they were if they saw them apart from the oldest. They havent asked if we needed help with the house which needed a full overhaul, they never offered to have them for an hour even during construction work, my parents were an absolute godsend with help with everything. I've pretty much put them behind me now and don't want to be hassled or hurt by them again.. And don't want my children being hurt, as its probably only so they can put in a final word and have them pestering to go because its a seaside.. They dont need it, as they have now come up good and settled in their new home after all that's gone on, I don't want them unsettled again.

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Sennetti · 07/09/2020 19:13

well you are saved op, because with covid,nobody needs to be going visiting in others homes anyway!

SunbathingDragon · 07/09/2020 19:15

I’m not sure I’ve understood all of it but it’s clear you are upset with them. What’s your partner’s view? Is them seeing your children a one off as they are moving (or have I misunderstood that?) because if it is, I would just go with what your partner wants.

Itsrainingnotmen · 07/09/2020 19:15

8 months on? Will the dc even remember them??
Send them a pic at best op.

3amigosmama · 07/09/2020 19:16

Aye this is too true, but covid never said you couldn't call or text someone, and this is also backing beyond and before the start of covid.

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Itsrainingnotmen · 07/09/2020 19:30

Bit like my mil who didn't bother with us from Xmas to July and expected to come to our wedding.. Think not you cf...

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