MIL

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AIBU?
During the last couple months, after coming out of lockdown, MIL and SIL have had DD ALOT!! Bear in mind I have 2 children, but DD seems to be the favourite for whatever reason...
3 weeks ago, we told them that when DD starts back at school she will not be sleeping out anymore until the next half term. They agreed.
DP gets a text from MIL yesterday to ask if she can have DD to sleep next weekend, to which he replied ' No she's not to stay out anymore until October half term, but you're welcome to have THEM during the day'
Get a reply back saying we need to grow up, we're being tw**s, out of order etc...

She's now said that she won't have the children anymore then because 'its too much hassle '

Wtf? Are we being unreasonable for not letting them have them overnight? Or is she being a b*h?

How old is your other dc? Are they harder to look after than your DD? Maybe there's a valid reason why MIL only wants to have your DD....

Well, someone needs to do some growing up, but it's not you and DP.

Don't negotiate with terrorists, and always ignore a toddler's tanty - even if the one throwing it is your MIL.

She doesn’t get to call the shots on this. If she wants to be rude about your parenting, you’ll need to reduce contact.

Well DS is 2 years younger but I have to say he is much easier! So that cannot be an excuse.

She’s psycho! Wouldn’t let my kids near her!

Genuine question - why don’t you want her to stay overnight if day time visits are OK? I’m confused.

Did he actually write 'THEM' in capital letters?

So nows a good time then to move on. At some point your ds will start to notice that he is being treated differently to your dd

So for me it would always be to have them both during the day, or neither

Dont reply, dont respond in any way. She now needs to come to you and apologise.

Well your dp is on board so you are holding all the cards here. She is the one asking so a bit silly her being rude to you.

Nah, I wouldn't be wanting overnights, they're tired going back to school, they need to get into a routine. Also, my kids weren't 'pick 'n mix', they were a 'bulk buy'. Certainly when it came to family.

She’s being out of order and the one that needs to grow up! They are your children!

Routine is the exact reason we have said she can't stay out overnight. Its important for children

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Routine is the exact reason we have said she can't stay out overnight. Its important for children

Fair enough, it was a genuine question. I was a pretty free form parent so it hadn’t occurred to me.

It’s not fair to treat the siblings differently, I agree with the both or none stance.

Also she called you twats? That’s so bizarre my parents would never call me that!

She sounds batshit! She called you twats? (You can swear on here) Your dd is not her plaything. You’d already said no sleepovers til October half term. Don’t cave!